Perhaps you’ve completely stopped trying, because no matter how you said it, or how many times, your partner didn’t seem to hear you. So now it feels safer to settle for something rather than risk losing everything.
Maybe you worry you’ll seem “too much” or “too needy”… and your partner will see you as “difficult.”
Or maybe you do speak up, but it comes out as demands like “you never…” or “I need you to…” and before you know it, you’re repeating the same old argument, yet again.
And rather than working together as a team, you try to “win” your case… only to be met with defensiveness, anger, or total shutdown.
If you struggle to communicate your desires – or it just doesn’t land well when you do – this on-demand course from leading therapist Terry Real will equip you with the skills to finally get what you want from your relationships.
Introducing…
We’ve never wanted more from our relationships. We no longer want just companionship and stability… we want relationships that are alive, passionate, intimate, and deeply fulfilling.
Yet most of us were never taught the skills to realize it.
We were never taught how to speak up in a way that invites generosity, not conflict. Or how to handle disappointment without turning it into distance or control.
Maybe you let things slide to “keep the peace,” or maybe you resort to criticizing and demanding.
Either way, resentment builds over months, years, decades, until finally we snap.
And then? We swing from over-accommodating people-pleasing to under-accommodating self-righteousness…
While it might feel good in the moment to stand up and say “screw you!”, it’s not good for your relationship.
Thankfully, there is a better way.
You can speak up for what you want while also honoring your partner – building closeness, not distance. This is what Terry Real calls relational empowerment: “We’re a team. This is what I would like. What can I give you to help you come through for me?”
Who do you know that speaks like this? Probably no-one!
In this course, you’ll join Terry Real for 6 on-demand modules to learn the essential relational skills to transform how you show up in your relationship – and help you build more fulfilling connections.
Get started now and take the first step toward building a more connected partnership for both of you.
As soon as you sign up, you’ll get instant access to 6 online modules with Terry Real, allowing you to work through the classes at your own pace.
Each module combines lecture and Q&A, where Terry will introduce you to essential relationship skills and guide you in gaining deeper insights into your triggers and repeating patterns. You’ll equip yourself with the self-awareness and skills you need to transform how you show up in your relationships and finally start getting more joy and fulfillment from them.
Our recorded Q&As also give you the opportunity to learn from the honest challenges of other couples and individuals, and gain advice you can apply to your own relational transformation.
— Daniella S.
RLT is known for producing deep, permanent change quickly.
It transforms not just the relationship but the character of each partner.
As you observe Terry, you will learn how RLT works in three phases:
In this opening module, you’ll be introduced to the Relationship Grid – a powerful tool for identifying how your self-esteem and boundaries shape the way you relate.
In Part 1: Understanding Your Repeating Patterns, you’ll use the grid to uncover how you and your partner show up when things get tough – the predictable moves that keep you stuck in the same fight.
In Part 2: Breaking the Cycle, you’ll move from awareness to change. You’ll learn how to use the grid as a roadmap for growth, through relational mindfulness and practical tools to interrupt old patterns and shift into the center of health.
In this module, you’ll go on a deep exploration of how our approach and understanding of relationships in Western culture hinders our ability to form meaningful connections and true intimacy. Most importantly, you’ll learn an entirely new way of being in a relationship.
You’ll learn how to let go of the desire to control, what an equal partnership really looks like, and how to think like a team and work with your partner to get more of what you want.
We’ll explore what it means to speak up effectively. You’ll discover where we tend to go wrong when speaking up, either overaccommodating and self-sacrificing or underaccommodating and demanding. Then, Terry will teach you a new way: how to speak up with love.
You’ll explore the core relational skill Loving Power, and how to put it into practice right away to start standing up for what you want in a way that empowers you and your partner.
You may be more effective in getting more of what you want when things are calm between you and your partner – but what happens when the wheels come off? That’s what we’ll explore in this class.
Learning how to “repair” – or “make up” – is a key aspect of relationships many of us lack. You’ll learn robust relational skills to use when you’re angry, upset, or hurt:
As much as you’ll learn to speak up with love in this course, a critical part of the work of relationships is also knowing how to respond when your partner is upset or asks for something from you.
Listening is the second step of repair. You’ll learn how to listen with an open heart and allow space for your partner’s perspective, without jumping into defence. You’ll explore how to “reflect back” so your partner feels heard and how to respond to their requests.
Once your partner starts giving you more of what you asked for, the question is: can you receive it? It’s not always easy. This class is dedicated to the skills you need to:
— Tod, Boston, MA
Getting What You Want From Your Relationship is for anyone looking to find better ways to relate in their intimate relationships…
This course will teach you the essential relational skills to speak up with love, listen without defensiveness, and work like a team to build more fulfilling relationships.
— Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop
Choose the payment option that best suits you.
Choose the payment option that best suits you.
2 x monthly payments
This is a self-paced program. You’ll get immediate access as soon as you sign up, and you can watch the modules on your own schedule, whenever it works best for you.
All course materials will be stored in your personal learning platform. If you’ve taken one of our courses previously, your login will be the same. If you’re new to Terry’s programs, we’ll send login details via email as soon as you join.
Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.
While mental health professionals are always welcome to join our courses, this is designed for the general public and therefore there are no CE credits available.
Yes – the insights and relational skills you will learn in this course will help you understand your dynamics in past relationships and build healthier connections in the future. These skills also support you in speaking up with love in every aspect of your life, whether it be with family, friends, neighbours, or coworkers.
Yes – while your partner’s choice to change their behavior is theirs alone, the skills you will learn in this course will allow you to speak up with love, make requests, and address conflict in a more relational and effective way. By showing up differently yourself – in a way that encourages openness and generosity – you can invite a different response from your partner, too.
We’re confident you’ll love this course, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 14 days of purchase and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
In special cases, we can offer discounted rates. Please email us at support@terryreal.com with details of your circumstances and we will do our best to support you.
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.