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Guest Appearances

A Matter of Choice: Deciding Whether to be Right or be Married
There’s an ancient saying that's profoundly applicable to couples therapy: the laws of nature are like a miller’s wheel—they’ll grind you to powder, unless you learn to be the miller. In our close relationships, the laws of nature that threaten to grind our love into...
Rowing to Nowhere: When is Enough Enough?
Like most therapists, I love it when couples step into new beginnings. Watching a partner move into accountability for the first time, or become vulnerable as never before, or demonstrate empathy where there’d been none—such moments make my day. But what about couples...
Joining Through the Truth
Most of us were trained to believe that we needed to be extremely careful when helping clients face the really difficult truths in their lives—especially their own obnoxious, selfish, or self-defeating actions. Better to err on the side of going slow, creating safety,...
Working with Difficult Men: Where’s the Leverage for Change
“It used to be a man could tell what to do,” says George, who’s in his mid-50s, a Boston expat now living with his wife, Michele, in her home state of Texas. In jeans and a work shirt, he looks the part of an ordinary American Joe. “Go to work,” George ticks off....
GOOP PODCAST: Why We Need to Take Our Partners On with Terry Real
“Pay attention to your vulnerable feelings, and lead with those,” says therapist Terry Real, who comes back on The goop Podcast to help us navigate sheltering in place with significant others. Real guides us on how to step up for our partners (and ourselves) in...
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