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Perhaps you’ve completely stopped trying, because no matter how you said it, or how many times, your partner didn’t seem to hear you.
So now it feels safer to settle for something rather than risk losing everything. Maybe you worry you’ll seem “too much” or “too needy”… and your partner will see you as “difficult.”
Or you pressure yourself to be the “perfect partner”… and perfect partners don’t complain. Or maybe you do speak up, but it’s met with defensiveness, anger, or total shutdown.
If you struggle to ask for what you want – or it just doesn’t land when you do – the brand new live course from leading therapist Terry Real will equip you with the skills to finally speak up with love and get more of what you want in your relationship.
Introducing…
Most of us were never taught how to speak up in a way that invites generosity, not conflict.
Instead, we let things slide to “keep the peace”… Which allows resentment to build over months, years, decades, until finally we snap. And then? We swing from over-accommodating people-pleasing to under-accommodating self-righteousness… While it might feel good in the moment to stand up and say “screw you!”, it’s not good for your relationship.
But there is a better way.You can speak up for what you want while also honoring your partner – building closeness, not distance. This is what Terry Real calls relational empowerment: “We’re a team. This is what I would like. What can I give you to help you come through for me?”
Who do you know that speaks like this? Probably no-one! In Stand Up For Yourself and Be Heard, you’ll join Terry Real for 5 LIVE classes to learn the essential relational skills to change how you show up and invite a different response from your partner. Join today and take the first step toward building a more fulfilling partnership for both of you.
Join today and take the first step toward building a more connected partnership for both of you.
You’ll join Terry Real for 5 interactive 90-minute classes. The classes will be a mix of lecture and Q&A as Terry introduces essential skills and guides you through deeper insights to transform how you show up in your relationships.
You’ll have time to ask Terry questions each week to receive advice on your specific challenges and learn from the experiences of others in your supportive group.
Class 1 :
Wednesday, June 25
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Class 2:
Wednesday July 3
1:00 PM – 2:30 PM ET
Class 3:
Wednesday, July 9
2:00 PM – 3:30 PM ET
Class 4:
Wednesday, July 16
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Class 5:
Wednesday, July 23
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
— Daniella S.
Class 1 :
Wednesday, June 25
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Class 2:
Wednesday July 3
1:00 PM – 2:30 PM ET
Class 3:
Wednesday, July 9
2:00 PM – 3:30 PM ET
Class 4:
Wednesday, July 16
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Class 5:
Wednesday, July 23
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make standing up for yourself with love a lifelong practice.
RLT is known for producing deep, permanent change quickly.
It transforms not just the relationship but the character of each partner.
As you observe Terry, you will learn how RLT works in three phases:
🗓️ Wednesday, June 25, 12–1:30 pm ET
In your first class you’ll take a deep exploration of how our approach & understanding of relationships in Western culture hinders our ability to form meaningful connections and true intimacy.
Most importantly, you’ll learn an entirely new way of being in a relationship.
You’ll learn how to let go of the desire to control, what an equal partnership really looks like, and how to think like a team and work with your partner to get more of what you want.
🗓️ Wednesday, July 3, 1:00–2:30 PM ET
We’ll explore what it means to speak up effectively. You’ll discover where we tend
to go wrong in speaking up as we swing from over-accommodating & self-sacrificing into under-accommodating and demanding. Terry will teach you a new way: how to speak up with love.
You’ll explore the core relational skill Loving Power, and how to put it into practice right away to start standing up for what you want in a way that empowers you and your partner.
🗓️ Wednesday, July 9, 2:00 –3:30 PM ET
You may feel more comfortable speaking up when things are calm between you and your partner – but what happens when the wheels come off? That’s what we’ll explore in this class.
Learning how to “repair” – or “make up” – is a key aspect of relationships many of us lack. You’ll learn robust relational skills to use when you’re angry, upset, or hurt:
🗓️ Wednesday, July 16, 12:00 – 1:30 PM ET
As much as you’ll learn to stand up for yourself in this course, a critical part of the work of relationships is also knowing how to respond when your partner is upset or asks for something from you.
Listening is the second step of repair. You’ll learn how to listen with an open heart and allow space for your partner’s perspective, without jumping into defence.
You’ll explore how to “reflect back” so your partner feels heard and how to respond to their requests.
🗓️ Wednesday, July 16, 12:00 – 1:30 PM ET
As much as you’ll learn to stand up for yourself in this course, a critical part of the work of relationships is also knowing how to respond when your partner is upset or asks for something from you.
Listening is the second step of repair. You’ll learn how to listen with an open heart and allow space for your partner’s perspective, without jumping into defence.
You’ll explore how to “reflect back” so your partner feels heard and how to respond to their requests.
— Tod, Boston, MA
Stand Up For Yourself and Be Heard is for anyone looking to find better ways to relate in their intimate relationships…
This course will teach you the essential relational skills to speak up, lean into conflict effectively, & work like a team to build more fulfilling relationships.
— Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop
Class 1 :
Wednesday, June 25
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Class 2:
Wednesday July 3
1:00 PM – 2:30 PM ET
Class 3:
Wednesday, July 9
2:00 PM – 3:30 PM ET
Class 4:
Wednesday, July 16
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Class 5:
Wednesday, July 23
12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make standing up for yourself with love a lifelong practice.
Choose the payment option that best suits you.
Choose the payment option that best suits you.
2 x monthly payments
If you’re enrolled in the RLT Certification, you receive 50% off this course. We will have emailed you a special link to claim your 50% discount. If you’re a mental health professional and interested in enrolling in the certification, we invite you to complete the inquiry form. If you haven’t received your email, please email support@terryreal.com.
If you’re RLT-certified and have joined the official RLT Alumni Membership, we will have emailed you a special link to claim your 30% discount. If you aren’t yet a member, you can join here. If you haven’t received your email, please email support@terryreal.com.
Yes – the live classes take place over 5 consecutive weeks (please note the later start time for class two).
Class 1: Wednesday, June 25 Class 2: Thursday July 3 Class 3: Wednesday, July 9 Class 4: Wednesday, July 16 Class 5: Wednesday, July 23 | 12–1:30 pm ET 1–2:30 pm ET 2–3:30 pm ET 12–1:30 pm ET 12–1:30 pm ET |
Don’t worry – all classes will be recorded and stored in your private learning platform, the RLT Hub, for you to watch at your convenience. If this is the first time you’ve taken one of our courses, you’ll receive log in and access details as soon as you sign up.
All classes take place over Zoom. Your confirmation email will contain your unique link to join – it’s the same link for each class. We will also send you a reminder 24 hours before each class containing your Zoom link.
Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.
While mental health professionals are always welcome to join our courses, this is designed for the general public and therefore there are no CE credits available.
Yes – the insights and relational skills you will learn in this course will help you understand your dynamics in past relationships and build healthier connections in the future. These skills also support you in standing up for yourself in every aspect of your life, whether it be with family, friends, neighbours, or coworkers.
Yes – while your partner’s choice to change their behavior is theirs alone, the skills you will learn in this course will allow you to speak up for yourself, make requests, and address conflict in a more relational and effective way. By showing up differently yourself – in a way that encourages openness and generosity – you can invite a different response from your partner, too.
We’re confident you’ll love this course, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
In special cases, we can offer discounted rates. Please email us at support@terryreal.com with details of your circumstances and we will do our best to support you.
Yes, please see details below:
RLT Certification: If you are currently enrolled in the certification program, you receive 50% off this course. You should have received an email from us at the email address you used to enroll titled: TBC. Please check your spam/junk folder and if you still have difficulty, reach out to us at support@terryreal.com
Alumni Membership: If you joined the official RLI Alumni Membership, you receive 30% off this course. You should have received an email from us at the email address you used to enroll titled: TBC. Please check your spam/junk folder and if you still have difficulty, reach out to us at support@terryreal.com
If you are a Certification graduate, but not yet an Alumni member, you can learn more and join here.
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.
The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:
The RLT Level 1 Training Course
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT
Continuing Ed credits offered: 10 credit hours for 5 Classes
At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.
Content:
Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model.
Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.
RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.
Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:
Throughout the course, you’ll learn:
Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors
Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.
Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each
Course Dates & Hours:
January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025
Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class
Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.
Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.
If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.
Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.
FAQ’s
How do I receive the Zoom link?
The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com
Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?
Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.
When will I get my certificate?
Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.
Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com
Instructor’s Bios:
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.
He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”
Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.
Anna Sterk, LMFT
Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022. Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.
Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:
Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.
CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.
Grievance Procedure:
If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written
complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a
detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the
accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to
discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the
accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for
the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the
grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the
appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all
grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance
Procedure is available upon request.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com
