Introducing the First-Ever Men’s Group Coaching Program From the Relational Life Institute. Based on Terry Real’s Groundbreaking RLT Method, Led by Two of His Most Trusted RLT Faculty Members:
LIVE men’s coaching group, exclusively limited to 20 participants, to share the load, unpack your deepest challenges, and thrive in love, life, and fatherhood.
You’ve been taught to push your feelings down – until they leak out sideways as anger, anxiety, or withdrawal.
That asking for help makes you weak.
That if you can’t hold it all together, you’re failing.
And the more you try to stay strong, stay in control, and not let it show…
The more frustrated, exhausted, and alone you feel.
But you’re not alone.
The truth is, many men feel this way but feel unable to speak it. Just like you.
And the good news is there’s a better way to live.
Better for your relationships. Better for your kids. Better for you.
And the people around you?
They’ll feel closer to you – and safer with you – than ever before.
Relational Life Therapy has helped thousands of men step out of survival mode and into real connection – with their partners, their kids, and themselves.
You don’t have to figure this out on your own.
With the right tools, structure, and support, you can learn a better way.
For you.
And for everyone who counts on you.
Join 19 men who get it – and support each other as you grow.
You came to the workshop and learned the impossible challenges that have been set for you before you were even old enough to read.
You saw how disconnection and silence were passed down to you, and how easy it is to pass them on.
And you now know that this isn’t your fault – but it is your responsibility to change.
Yet, even with all this awareness of the cost of the current rules you live by, it’s all too easy to slip back into the part of you that resists doing things differently:
Especially when you likely carry deep emotional wounds you’ve never fully faced.
Wounds that show up again and again in how you deal with conflict, how you disconnect from your emotions, and how you create distance from those you love most.
The strong, loving, connected man you want to be isn’t out of reach. But he will take intention, support, and sophisticated relational skills to become.
Through honest reflection, expert guidance, and a circle of men walking the same path, you can learn to express and nurture the vulnerable, caring parts of you that your loved ones deeply long for.
Are you ready to stop passing on the pain and become the partner, father, and man you can truly be proud of?
In just 8 weeks, you can change your life and your legacy for good.
Overcoming the intense pressures placed on men today requires you to unravel everything you think you know about masculinity, success, and worth – and rebuild a new, healthier model from the inside out.
That’s where this unique men’s group coaching experience begins.
Expert Guidance
From 2 esteemed RLT coaches
Personalized Support
Over 8 interactive group sessions
Community Connection
Be part of a group of 20 men who get it
Led by two esteemed RLT faculty members, Zach Brittle and Julie Rudiger, this interactive live group coaching program offers a rare space to share what’s really hitting you right now, and gain a deep awareness of the internalized behaviors and perceptions behind your present difficulties.
Across 8 LIVE sessions, you’ll be introduced to the most effective tools to build real self-esteem, overcome losing strategies, and radically transform your relationships.
These tools are rooted in Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy method – known for producing deep, lasting transformation.
Our RLT coaches will help you navigate the deep-rooted challenges facing men today, and trade in the outdated rulebook of masculinity for a more relational, connected, and joyful way of living.
You’ll have the space to:
You’ll gain a deeper understanding of yourself, the losing strategies that have been working against you, and how to show up as the strong, loving, connected man that you, your partner, and your family need.
Join The Men’s Group Coaching Program to invest in your relationships, health, and happiness.
Join our live 8-week group coaching program and receive expert support rooted in the powerful, straight-talking tools of Relational Life Therapy.
Grow alongside other men who get it. Share reflections, wins, and gain additional support between sessions.
Engage in 8 interactive sessions, sharing the tools and practices to build emotional strength, connection, and relational confidence.
Zach Brittle has been helping couples build connection for over 20 years—as a teacher, coach, and therapist. He’s a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington State and certified in both Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Relational Life Therapy (Terry Real’s model).
Zach is also the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of The Relationship Alphabet, a bestselling relationship guide, and The Marriage Therapy Journal, a practical workbook for couples. His work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Vanity Fair, Men’s Health, Real Simple, and the Gottman Relationship Blog.
Julie Rudiger has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last three decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships.
A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.
Over 8 x 2-hour sessions, esteemed RLT faculty members Zach Brittle and Julie Rudiger will help you unpack your biggest challenges, open up about your deepest wounds, and build the skills to become relationally skilled and deeply connected.
To pull this off, you will:
You’ll also be invited to join a private WhatsApp group with your fellow participants, so you can share your experiences, wins, and get continued support between sessions.
Expect deep, no-holds-barred conversations but in an immensely supportive, non-judgmental environment where you can always pass at any time if something feels too much or too uncomfortable.
Each 2-hour session will include time for a check-in and questions/discussion. We will also cover the following topics, based on Terry Real’s time-tested formulas for relational success.
Over 8 LIVE sessions, you’ll explore:
… and so much more.
Inside Men’s Group Coaching: 8 LIVE Sessions with 2 Esteemed RLT Faculty Members
Begin your journey by understanding why we often don’t use the skills we’ve learned – especially in moments of high stress or conflict.
✔️ Welcome introduction to your group coaching program and RLT coaches
✔️ Housekeeping rules and setting the stage for your journey
✔️Get clear on what’s been holding you back – and how to change it
Identify how your sense of self-esteem and boundaries impact the way you show up in relationships. This week, you’ll learn how to stay connected and protected at the same time, while holding yourself and others in warm regard.
✔️ Discover how low or inflated self-esteem disrupts healthy connection
✔️ Identify whether you exhibit boundaryless or walled-off behavior
✔️ Practice building supple, relational boundaries that support intimacy
Explore the losing strategies you’re unknowingly using and falling back on – and how they keep you stuck in your relationships and life. This week, you’ll learn how to shift from reaction into repair.
✔️ Identify your go-to behaviors when you feel criticized or unseen
✔️ See how these losing strategies shut down intimacy and connection
✔️ Learn the tools to handle conflict without shutting down or blowing up
We all have conflicting desires and goals at times. This week, we will explore why and how these parts developed, and when they are best used to advantage.
✔️ Gain a deep understanding of yourself and how you connect with others
✔️ Recognize how different parts of you may help or hurt your relationships
✔️ Start making choices from your wise, present self
Based on Terry Real’s NY Times Bestselling book “Us,” we will unpack the influences of patriarchy and individualism on our relational skills. You’ll learn what “Us” consciousness means, and how to operate within it for greater happiness and fulfillment.
✔️ Practice seeing your relationship as a team sport
✔️ Shift out of scorekeeping and resentment
✔️ Learn how to become a caretaker of your shared biosphere
Understand and practice the core skills of healthy relationships: intimacy, accountability, compassion, and vulnerability. Learn why these aren’t weaknesses to avoid, but the route to greater success in love, family, and life.
✔️ Discover what makes relationships thrive – and what slowly kills them
✔️ Shift from reactivity into emotional responsibility
✔️ Become adaptable to respond with toughness or tenderness, depending on the moment
What matters isn’t whether you have conflict – it’s whether you have the skills to repair it. This week, you’ll learn the essential communication skills to come back from conflict quickly, reconnect, and strengthen your relationship.
✔️ Learn how to listen without defensiveness, and handle hard conversations with confidence
✔️ Practice expressing yourself without aggression, shutdown, or blame
✔️ Gain tools to navigate conflict skillfully and repair quickly when the wheels fall off
This final session is shaped by you. You’ll have the chance to request the topics and discussions that are most alive for you right now, celebrate your growth, and anchor lasting change.
✔️ Bring the topics you haven’t had space to unpack – nothing is off-limits
✔️ Receive support from your coaches and the men who’ve walked beside you
✔️ Commit to how you want to keep showing up – for yourself and those you love
We know that $950 is a significant investment in yourself and your future. You might not be sure that this program will work or what makes it so different from the other things you may have tried in the past. That’s perfectly understandable.
To prove that this will be the single best investment you can make for yourself and your relationships, you’re eligible for our 100% money-back guarantee as soon as you join.
If within 48 hours of the first live call you don’t feel this is the right program for you, then you’ll receive a 100% refund on the program. There are no tricks or hidden cancellations pages, just email our team at support@terryreal.com and we’ll immediately arrange your refund.
Once you join today and get started with the Men’s Group Coaching program, the guarantee will automatically apply.
Listen to the first few minutes of the video below to hear Kevin Rose share his experience during a men’s group on the Tim Ferris Podcast!
You will receive 8 x 2-hour live sessions which take place over Zoom from 7pm – 9pm ET on the following dates:
To truly benefit from this coaching experience, it’s essential that you show up, participate, and engage with the work live each week. This is not a passive program – the transformation comes through doing the exercises, reflecting on the homework, and being part of the group process in real-time.
That said, we know life can happen. If you miss a session, all calls will be recorded and available inside the RLT Hub after the program concludes. You will receive login details and instructions on how to access the Hub once you join. You’ll be able to catch up on the content, but the real payoff comes from being there live, present, and committed to the process.
Will the sessions be recorded?
Yes – we will record the teaching segments of each session, which will be made available in your secure learning platform once the program ends. To protect confidentiality, personal sharing and group discussions will not be recorded.
Recordings will not be available before the final session, as live attendance is crucial for getting the most from this experience.
Yes, the live sessions will all take place via Zoom.
Each call will take place on Zoom. You will receive your Zoom call link via email (it will also be inside the RLT Hub, our dedicated learning platform).
Forever! As soon as you sign up, we send you logins for your learning platform, the RLT Hub, where you have lifetime access to all course materials.
Yes — relational skills are relational skills. This group is for men who want to grow, heal, and build better, healthier relationships in every area of life whether that’s with yourself, your friends, family, or coworkers. If you’re single, dating, and looking to enjoy more fulfilling and connected relationships, these skills will prove beneficial.
You’re welcome to pass at any particular moment – but we encourage you to come ready to share. We’ll be holding small group breakout rooms, and you’ll likely find that many other men are experiencing similar challenges, so you can learn a lot from their questions and experiences.
No – this program is open to the general public and is not intended as professional training, therefore CE credits will not be offered.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is Terry Real’s radical approach to couples therapy that breaks many of the rules of traditional couples therapy. Notably, RLT emphasizes the importance of people learning the ongoing skills they need to nurture and cherish their relationships long after their time in therapy is over. It’s these core skills you will learn in the Men’s Group Coaching to help you create meaningful relationships and keep the spark alive.
We’re confident you’ll love this program, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.
Homestudy Course Continuing Ed Details
This Home study course is approved for continuing education hours as described below.
NBCC (National Board of Certified Counsellors)
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
The course content is appropriate for Intermediate level clinicians.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is a transformative approach to couples work created by Terry Real that produces deep, profound, and lasting change in both individual partners and their relationships. Unlike traditional therapy models that separate character work from couples therapy, RLT integrates psychodynamic principles, family systems theory, feminism, trauma work, and addiction recovery into a cohesive framework designed to help people live authentically connected lives. This course introduces therapists to RLT’s distinctive methodology, which challenges conventional therapeutic practices by confronting difficult behaviors from the very first session, addressing both shame and grandiosity, taking sides when appropriate, and using judicious self-disclosure to model relationality.
Participants will learn how RLT differs from other modalities by doing deep character transformation and trauma work within the couples session itself, using the relationship as a crucible for accelerated healing.
This 3-hour foundational training covers the three core phases of RLT treatment: waking up the client through “joining through the truth,” conducting trauma work to understand and heal the adaptive child, and building relational skills that move clients beyond patriarchal patterns toward genuine intimacy. Participants will explore the tri-part model of the psyche—the wise adult, adaptive child, and wounded child—and learn to identify the recursive feedback loops (“the more the more”) that keep couples stuck. The course addresses how to work with both one-up (grandiose) and one-down (shame-based) positions, understanding that true love requires neither superiority nor inferiority but relational democracy. Through lecture, demonstration videos, and case examples, therapists will gain practical tools for helping clients shift from knee-jerk reactivity to relational mindfulness, transforming their capacity for authentic connection with themselves and others.
Identify the three phases of Relational Life Therapy (Waking Up the Client, Trauma Work, and Skill Building) and their sequential role in the therapeutic process.
Differentiate between the three parts of the psyche in RLT (Wise Adult, Wounded Child, and Adaptive Child) and their functions in client behavior.
Describe the technique of “Joining Through the Truth” and how it builds therapeutic alliance while confronting difficult behaviors.
Distinguish between modeling and reacting as the two ways the Adaptive Child is formed in response to childhood experiences.
Explain the therapeutic benefits of conducting trauma work with the partner present in the room rather than in individual therapy.
Assess the three preconditions (untreated psychiatric disorders, active addictions, and acting out behaviors) that must be addressed before proceeding with couples therapy.
Contrast individual empowerment versus relational empowerment when teaching clients to stand up for themselves within relationships.
Apply the biosphere metaphor to help couples understand their interdependence and move from a control-based model to ecological wisdom.
3 NBCC credit hours
This course is $47.00
There is no conflict of interest for this program.
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.” approval.
Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459;
617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com; www.relationallife.com
The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:
The RLT Level 1 Training Course
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT
Continuing Ed credits offered: 10 credit hours for 5 Classes
At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.
Content:
Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model.
Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.
RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.
Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:
Throughout the course, you’ll learn:
Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors
Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.
Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each
Course Dates & Hours:
January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025
Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class
Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.
Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.
If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.
Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.
FAQ’s
How do I receive the Zoom link?
The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com
Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?
Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.
When will I get my certificate?
Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.
Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com
Instructor’s Bios:
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.
He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”
Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.
Anna Sterk, LMFT
Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022. Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.
Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:
Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.
CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.
Grievance Procedure:
If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written
complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a
detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the
accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to
discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the
accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for
the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the
grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the
appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all
grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance
Procedure is available upon request.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com