A 3-hour training with leading couples’ therapist, Terry Real
Stuck in a Relationship That's Too Good to Leave and Too Bad to Stay?
This workshop helps you understand what’s keeping you stuck – and gives you the clarity and courage to finally stop waiting and make the move.
Terry Real, couples therapist, speaker & NY Times bestselling author
When Staying Feels Lonely… And Leaving Feels Terrifying.
You’ve tried. You’ve talked, you’ve waited, you’ve swallowed your disappointment and hoped things would get better. But your unhappiness and resentment only grows. It seems no matter what you try, you just can’t get through to your partner. Perhaps nights are spent lying awake next to someone who feels a million miles away.
Some days you wonder if leaving would mean you’ve given up too soon, others, if you’re abandoning yourself by staying…
This is the exact space Terry calls stable ambiguity – a painful emotional limbo where many couples get stuck for months, years, even decades.
And that limbo of indecision is draining. It’s exhausting. The uncertain dance of one foot in, one foot out is no good for either of you.
Why Is It So Hard to Decide (Even When You’re Unhappy)?
It’s your birthright to be in a relationship that is fundamentally cherishing
And living for years in emotional distance, disappointment, or quiet marital misery is not noble – it’s harmful. To you, your partner, and your children.
But that doesn’t automatically mean you should leave. Some relationships – even those that feel like a lost cause – have the potential to dramatically transform.
And yet sometimes, even with that work and despite your best efforts and your partner’s efforts, you may decide it’s better to let go.
Only you can make the decision – and this workshop is designed to support you as you grapple with that question.
Over these 3 hours, Terry will guide you through:
- Why we get stuck in this stable ambiguity.
- What you can do to invite the change you’re longing for.
- When to seek help from a therapist.
- The tool for when you’ve tried everything to decide whether to stay or go.
And there will be lots of space for discussion as you have the opportunity to ask Terry’s advice on your specific situation, as well as learn from the challenges others are facing.
Stay Or Go?
Clarity and Courage for One of Life’s Hardest Decisions: Join The 3-Hour Workshop With Terry Real
You’ll discover the questions and relational tools that pull you out of limbo and begin the process of determining whether your relationship can grow or if it’s time to let go.
When we find ourselves in this exhausting back and forth, we’re delaying the decision in the hopes we’ll eventually know for certain what’s right. But continuing to wait for certainty here will only bring you more of the same endless indecision.
One thing that is certain is you need a new beginning…
You do not want more of the same as you have right now. And that could look like moving on or it could look like daring to rock the boat in your relationship and ask for something different.
Terry Real has spent more than 40 years working with couples facing this exact same state of limbo to find their path back to joy. And while Terry has a strong reputation for saving relationships, he does not have a vested interest in keeping people together in misery. This workshop is about supporting you in coming to the decision that’s best for you, your partner, and your relationship.
If These Questions Sound Familiar…
I’ve already made up my mind. So why can’t I make myself do it?
How long should I wait to see if anything changes?
What if nothing changes… or it does but it’s still not enough?
Is it better for the children to stay together even if one or both of us is unhappy?
Nothing’s “wrong,” but I’m unbearably lonely – why?
How do I know if I’m giving up too soon – or if I’ve already waited too long?
I feel so resentful I’m not sure I can ever come back – is that true?
You’re not alone.
And this workshop will help you feel more supported and better equipped to make a call.
What You’ll Learn
You’ll explore the process of deciding whether to stay or go, including powerful relational skills and questions to ask, and when to see outside help.
What’s really behind the bitterness, weariness, and hopelessness you feel.
How our learned behaviors and coping mechanisms influence our relationship to relationships.
The relational skills you need to see whether change is possible.
The one question to decide once-and-for-all whether to stay or go.
There is pain to be felt whether you stay or go. Learn how to sit with it and move forward.
Is This Workshop for You?
Whether you’ve been together for decades or a couple of months, if you find yourself teetering on the verge of staying or going, this 3-hour workshop will help you.
Perhaps…
- You’ve already made up your mind, but can’t make yourself move.
- You’re exhausted from years of trying harder than your partner.
- You’re fighting all the time and walking on eggshells, afraid to set them off.
- You feel unbearably lonely – even when nothing is “wrong” on paper.
- You’re staying for the kids but you’re wondering if that’s hurting them more.
Whatever your situation, you’re not a bad person for having doubts. Underneath all of it is often one truth: You’re not getting what you need in this relationship.
Terry will help you understand exactly what you’re longing for, how to ask for it, and what to do if – despite your efforts – nothing changes.
What You Get When You Join the Workshop
The complete 3 hour on demand workshop taught by Terry Real
100% Money Back Guarantee for 48 hours after purchase
The chance to learn from real questions and scenarios shared during the original workshop recording, so you can see how others navigated the same struggles
Get the Workshop Today For Only $47
Who Is Terry Real?
Terry Real, LCISM, is an internationally recognized family therapist and the New York Times bestselling author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy, the progressive approach to couples therapy that equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves and each other. His courses and workshops have helped thousands of couples and individuals dramatically improve their relationships.
What Others Say About Terry’s Workshops & Courses
You’re Protected by a 100% Money-Back Guarantee
We’re confident you’ll find this workshop helpful, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind.
If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of purchasing the workshop & we’ll refund, no questions asked.
What You Get When You Join the Workshop
3-hour on demand workshop
Lifetime access to the recording
100% Money-Back Guarantee
To learn from others facing the same struggles
Register for the Workshop Today For Only $47
How is this workshop different from other programs on relationships?
This workshop is built on Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy approach, which focuses on truth telling, accountability, and concrete relational skills.
Instead of helping you return to the old status quo, it helps you understand the real dynamics keeping you stuck and gives you tools that create meaningful change or clarity about leaving.
When do I get access to the workshop?
Immediately. As soon as you enroll, the full 3 hour workshop appears inside your private learning platform with lifetime access.
How do I watch the workshop?
The workshop is fully on demand. After checkout, you’ll receive an email with your login details. You can watch the entire session at your own pace from your dashboard.
Will this workshop save my relationship?
There are no guarantees. If you are committed to making your relationship work, this workshop will introduce you to relational skills that will help you change how you communicate with your partner to invite a better response from them. However, this workshop is not intended as a substitute for therapy and if you feel you need extra support, we recommend searching our website directory for an RLT-certified couples therapist in your area.
Is this only for struggling relationships?
Not at all. While many people use the workshop to navigate painful indecision, it’s equally valuable for anyone who wants a more honest, connected, and fulfilling relationship. Whether you feel lonely, unsure, hopeful, or simply ready to break old patterns, you’ll gain tools that change how you relate and how you choose.
Can I join alone, or does my partner need to be there?
You can join alone or together. Terry will share from his four decades of experience working with couples and individuals grappling with the question of whether to stay or split. It is of course wonderful if you’re able to join together but you will be able to apply the skills Terry will share to change how you show up in the relationship, which will invite your partner to also change how they respond.
Is this suitable for therapists and coaches?
Yes – this workshop will help you gain an understanding of some of the challenges couples face in determining whether or not to stay together.
What’s your refund policy?
We’re confident you’ll find this workshop helpful, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of your purchase.
I still have questions. Who do I speak to?
Please contact us at support@terryreal.com.
Clarity and Courage for One of Life’s Hardest Decisions
