Relational Life Therapy

Level 2 Online Training

with Terry Real

Online Training on the Relational Life Model to Build Trust, Find Leverage & Get Faster Results in Client Sessions

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Welcome Back!

Thank you all for joining me for Level 1 of Relational Life Therapy. I hope that you enjoyed the material and have found it to be of use with your clients.

However, you’ve only just gotten your feet wet. For those who want a deeper understanding of my RLT model, I invite you to join me for Level 2.

By the end of Level 2, you will feel more comfortable with what you learned in Level 1. You will also have a better idea of how to move beyond the initial session with a couple and how to create the right course of therapy.

I’ve taught RLT workshops around the US for more than a decade, but in light of our changing world, I have finally created an online version of Relational Life Therapy Level 2. We will be diving into the most important skills of RLT 2 in each module, including a 90-minute recorded call with me, and a 50-minute recorded practice call with one of my most trusted students, teaching assistant Erika Boissiere, LMFT.

I invite you to join us.

Warmly,

You’ve finished RLT Level 1… Now what?

In RLT, therapists are not neutral—we take sides. Not all problems in a relationship are 50/50, and particularly when there’s a power imbalance, the therapist explicitly sides with the one-down person to restore balance. RLT therapists don’t try to seduce or earn the trust of grandiose people; instead, we gather data and use leverage to enlist clients in working through their issues.

What’s different about Level 2?

Here is a comparison of training topics:

Level 1:

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Introduction to Relational Life Therapy

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Relational Mindfulness

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Data Gathering and Seven Lenses 1-4

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Data Gathering and Seven Lenses 5-7

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Finding Leverage

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Reconnecting

Level 2:

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Reviewing Blatants and Latents: Diagnosing & Repairing Power Imbalances

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Moving from the Present to Each Partner’s Family of Origin

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Working with Deep Trauma in the Presence of One Another

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Dealing with Resistance and Amplifying Progress: The Difference Between Gratification and Relational Joy

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Looking at Attachment Styles: Love Dependent and Love Avoidant—What to Do

Level 2 starts with a review of some of the skills you learned in Level 1, then takes you deeper into the model by introducing new tools and skills.

“Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.”

– Terry Real

Here’s Everything Included with

Relational Life Therapy

Level 2 Online Training

 

1. Five Relational Life Therapy Level  2 Recorded Sessions with Terry Real

Join us to explore the RLT2 skills that will take you deeper with clients.

2. Five Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Recorded Practice Sessions with TA Erika Boissiere

Listen in as RLT Therapists practice new skills with peers and get feedback from Erika and fellow colleagues.

3. Exclusive Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Private Membership Portal

Log in to our secure portal to access the recorded calls and all of your training materials.

4. Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Takehomes 

Access downloadable versions of all the recorded calls and accompanying transcripts so that you can add them to your library of resources.

5. Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Facebook Group

Connect with your fellow RLT therapists and join conversations about this work

PLUS, These Bonuses:

Bonus #1: Video overview of the RLT model

Bonus #2: RLT’s Approach to Trauma Work

Bonus #3: library of clips: “Terry, what do I do when…?”

Here’s What You’ll Learn Inside

Relational Life Therapy

Level 2 Online Training

 

Module 1:

Reviewing Blatants and Latents: Diagnosing & Repairing Power Imbalances

We therapists and coaches often find a power imbalance in many troubled relationships in which one person is on top, while the other feels less than. Many couples come to us when one partner exerts more power, and the other doesn’t feel seen or heard. We help address the fears of the disempowered partner and empower them to stand up to their overbearing partner. During this session, we will look at the skills needed for redressing power imbalances and how to implement them.

We will discuss:

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When to use positive and negative leverage

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Joining through, as opposed to clobbering someone with, the truth
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Using family of origin work to rebalance the relationship

Module 2:

Moving from the Present to Each Partner’s Family of Origin

Like all family therapists, I had known for a long time about the idea of multigenerational legacies—the son of a rager becomes a rager, the daughter of a rager becomes a rager, the nonbinary child partners with the rager. These things go on and on until someone stops them. In this module, you will learn how to silhouette the couple’s present difficulties, their choreography, against the backdrop of multi-generational legacy. While I’ve always known about multi-generational patterns, it wasn’t until I encountered the work of Pia Mellody that I realized how the transmission occurs. Legacies are transmitted through trauma, through intrusive or abandoning injury. If we are to help partners move into increased intimacy, we must surface and deal with each of their family’s legacies.

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Moving from the present into the past by using the “affect bridge” (when have you felt these feelings before?)

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Transitioning to Family of Origin by using the 3 questions:

  1. Who did you see do this?
  2. Who did it to you?
  3. Who did you do it to and no one stopped you?
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How to frame current difficulties as the opportunity to transform one’s legacy and hand over a different future to one’s children

Module 3:

Working with Deep Trauma in the Presence of One Another

All trauma is relational trauma. In RLT, we work to heal a person’s trauma in the presence of their partner because it can deepen and accelerate healing for them both. We will examine how multigenerational trauma plays a role in adult relationships and how to best work with both inner child states—Wounded and Adaptive.

We will discuss:

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4 types of trauma and where they fall on the Trauma Grid

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How the Adaptive Child is formed

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Reparenting the Adaptive and Wounded Child parts

Module 4:

Dealing with Resistance and Amplifying Progress: The Difference Between Gratification and Relational Joy

When we work with a resistant client, it’s important to hone our skills of how best to use feedback, reiterating leverage, and detaching ourselves from specific outcomes. But, first, we must determine where the client’s resistance is coming from. Does it come from a fear of showing vulnerability? Or perhaps past trauma is holding someone back. Knowing how to therapeutically use oneself and presence, we can allow our clients to borrow our prefrontal cortex and enlist the Wise Adult part of the client to act as mentor and teacher to themselves.

We will discuss:

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The five fears behind resistance and how to respond to them

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Understanding and befriending the resistant part

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Using positive and negative leverage with a resistant part

Module 5:

Looking at Attachment Styles: Love Dependent and Love Avoidant—What to Do

Type 1 Love Avoidants are people who grew up in avoidant families and learned, from a very young age, that a lack of emotional connection is normal. As adults, Type 1 Avoidants often find emotional connection oppressive. We teach the Love Avoidant intimacy skills and how to open up his or her heart.

By contrast, a Type 2 Love Avoidant has experienced trauma, specifically enmeshment as a scapegoat, caretaker, hero, or confidant. These folks find closeness suffocating and Type 2 Love Avoidants need experiential trauma work to deal with their enmeshment. We’ll look at the differences between these two types of Love Avoidants and how to best approach each in the therapy room.

If the wound for Type 2 Love Avoidants is enmeshment, the wound for virtually all Love Dependents is abandonment. The sense of being abandoned is an early childhood trauma state. Adults don’t get abandoned, they get left. Abandoned means, “Without you I die,” and that’s exactly how it feels inside. In this module, you will learn to teach Love Dependents how to “Remember Abundance,” and how to reappropriate the sense of vitality and richness that they are used to projecting on others for themselves.

We will discuss:

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How to sell the value of intimacy along with its skills to a Type 1 Love Avoidant

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How to teach negotiation and the assertion of needs along with appropriate trauma work when dealing with a Type 2 Love Avoidant

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How to work on self-esteem, boundaries, and the remembrance of abundance when working with Love Dependents

“Terry Real helps overturn old-fashioned, confining roles and opens up a treasury of hope for lasting and exciting intimacy for couples everywhere.”

— Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Crazy Busy

Here’s Everything Included with

Relational Life Therapy

Level 2 Online Training

 

1. Five Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Recorded Sessions with Terry Real

2. Five Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Recorded Practice Sessions with TA Erika Boissiere

3. Exclusive Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Private Membership Portal

4. Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Takehomes

5. Private Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Facebook Group

Plus, these Bonuses:

Bonus #1 – Video Overview of the RLT Model

Bonus #2 – RLT’s Approach to Trauma Work

Bonus #3 – Library of Clips: “Terry, what do I do when…?”

Total Value

$1420

Regular Price:

$597

For a limited time only, choose the single payment option or easy payment plan:

Payment Plan

NOW 3 Easy Payments of

$187

(for a limited time only)

Single Payment

$497

(for a limited time only)

About Terry Real

Terry Real, LISCW, is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work, and the forthcoming book, US: How Moving Relationships Beyond You and Me Creates Love, Passion, and Understanding. Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy—and greater personal fulfillment.

Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.

About Erika Boissiere

Erika Boissiere is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT #84047), specializing in couples therapy and business executives struggling in their work relationships. Prior to Erika becoming a therapist, she worked in the investment banking sector for over 10 years. Following her passion, she became a couples therapist and founded a group practice, The Relationship Institute of San Francisco. She is also an adjunct professor at Golden Gate University. Separately, Erika is also a contributing author to Forbes. She publishes articles that brings the the tools of therapy to those that struggle with their business relationships.

Erika received her Masters degree in Psychology from the University of San Francisco, and graduated from the University of Colorado with a double major in Economics and Political Science.

Our Promise and Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with the Relational Life Therapy Level 2 training. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at support@terryreal.kinsta.cloud within 14 days of purchase, and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.

Testimonials

“Before learning Terry Real’s model I’d work with couples to problem-solve their dilemmas of the day. I always had misgivings about the long-term potential of my work because I didn’t know how to move in deeper to address with them their relational processes. Now, having Terry’s model for teaching clients healthy relating, I have guidelines to help them perform the modest miracle of personal transformation on a permanent level. “

— R.D.

“Terry, you are an absolute gift to the mental health community. “

— David Feder, MSW, RSW, CSAT, Close Connections, Toronto, Ontario, Canada

“Terry’s work provided foundations of “telling the truth” to clients. I did it easily with individuals, but stumbled with couples. Now I LOVE working with couples. It is now always profoundly moving & instructive.”

— Jeanne O

“Before RLT I felt like something was missing as a therapist. The things I was taught in school were not practical and I felt stuck in my practice. I’m so grateful for the experiences I have had with the RLT training. I now see relationships in a way that finally makes sense to me and I have more confidence working with couples because I have something that is realistic and I believe works and more importantly my clients are able to grasp and practice.”

— Jen K

“RLT therapy makes so much sense! It makes sense even to the most stubborn and treatment-resistant clients. Terry’s wisdom, intuition, and experience are priceless. In his trainings he clearly explains why and how RLT works. Each time when I practice RLT skills, my clients say they feel relieved and hopeful that somebody finally understands them, and they are looking forward to our sessions. I’m very grateful for RLT on both professional and personal levels.”

— E.E.

Here’s the truth:

We are still living in an uncertain world and couples need our support now more than ever. Arm yourself with the tools you need to help your clients navigate these rough waters.

Click below to sign up for Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Online Training now.

Here’s Everything Included with

Relational Life Therapy

Level 2 Online Training

 

1. Five Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Recorded Sessions with Terry Real

2. Five Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Recorded Practice Sessions with TA Erika Boissiere

3. Exclusive Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Private Membership Portal

4. Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Takehomes

5. Private Relational Life Therapy Level 2 Facebook Group

Plus, these Bonuses:

Bonus #1 – Video Overview of the RLT Model

Bonus #2 – RLT’s Approach to Trauma Work

Bonus #3 – Library of Clips: “Terry, what do I do when…?”

Total Value

$1420

Regular Price:

$597

For a limited time only, choose the single payment option or easy payment plan:

Payment Plan

NOW 3 Easy Payments of

$187

(for a limited time only)

Single Payment

$497

(for a limited time only)

Any Questions?

Please email us at support@terryreal.kinsta.cloud with any questions you have.