đď¸ October 14 and October 16
Break free from shame, self-criticism, and judgment â and finally build a more loving and compassionate relationship with yourself & others in Real Self-Esteem.
Is it loving and compassionate… even when you screw up?Â
Or is it unrelentingly harsh? Critical? Unforgiving?Â
If it’s the latter, it’s completely understandable.
Most of us battle with a negative self-image but the truth is, we werenât born with a negative inner voice..
Which means we also have the power to change it.
Truth is, you have worth simply because you are alive. Your worth cannot be added to or subtracted from. You are no worse than, no better than anyone else on this planet.
While it may feel impossible now, you can feel comfortable in your own skin.
And when you do, you’ll experience the positive ripple effect of that transformation in every aspect of your life â from your relationships with others to your performance at work.
Thatâs what youâll learn inside Real Self-Esteem â the online course from Terry Real will equip you with the strategies and tools to handle your negative inner voice and finally love yourself in spite of your imperfections.
The first LIVE class is on Tuesday, October 14 â join us today so you donât miss out!Â
Through a blend of on-demand classes and two bonus LIVE
90-minute classes with Terry Real, youâll move through 3 powerful stages to reconnect to your inherent sense of worth. By the end of this course, you will finally feel at peace in your skin. Youâll know how to:
No longer feeling you have to go along with everyone else to be valued, and instead feeling comfortable voicing what you truly think, feel, and need with love and respect.
Finally feeling âenoughâ as you are, not having to prove or earn your worth through what you own or what youâve achieved.Â
Not ripping yourself apart when you hurt someone, and instead feeling appropriately bad so you can express remorse and make amends.
5 On-Demand Classes with Terry Real
(watch anytime)
Get instant access to 5 transformational classes and learn how to give yourself unconditional love as a flawed human being â and extend that same compassion to others.
2 On-Demand Classes with
Julie Rudiger from the RLT Faculty
Deepen your understanding of your own inner critic and experience practical exercises to continue building healthy self-esteem. Youâll also see how Julie applies these tools directly to participant questions in our recorded
Q&A classes.Â
4 Practices & Meditations
to Cultivate Healthy Self-Esteem
As soon as you sign up, youâll receive access to 4 practices and meditations you can use time and again to help you build real self-esteem. (These include 2 from Terry Real.)
Lifetime Access to The Class
Recordings and Course Material
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.Â
Go deeper into the material as Terry shares additional teachings & takes your questions directly.
Why You Need Self-Esteem Work To Be Accountable
đ Tuesday, October 14, from 1:30â3pm ETÂ
Most of us spiral into self-attack when we hurt someone. In this live class, Terry will share the teachings to help you pull yourself up from shame and into genuine remorse so you can truly make amends.
Open Mic â Q&A with Terry
đ Thursday, October 16, from 1:30â3pm ETÂ
This class provides a rare opportunity to get Terryâs direct advice on cultivating real self-esteem in your own life. With a full 90 minutes dedicated to answering your questions, youâll also learn from the experiences of others facing similar challenges.
In Your On-Demand Classes With Terry Real
Explore the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence and understand how our sense of self is formed. Terry will also guide you through a powerful short exercise to support your inner child healing.Â
In this opening class, youâll discover:
Uncover whatâs holding you back from a healthy relationship with yourself. Youâll delve into the impact of your early childhood experiences and how theyâre affecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in the present.
Youâll explore:
Get to know your stress adaptations: how you behave under stress. Uncover â and begin to heal â the unhealthy coping mechanisms you developed that once kept you protected, but now hinder connection in your adult life.
Youâll explore:
Once youâve identified and understood your stress responses, itâs time to heal them. In this class, youâll learn how to replace negative self-talk with compassion, warmth, and accountability.Â
Youâll explore:
Our final class prepares you for lifelong healthy self-esteem. Youâll equip yourself with the tools to continue cultivating a better relationship with yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin.
Youâll explore:
Where does your inner critic come from? Take your understanding to a deeper level as you explore:
Youâll explore:
To support your ongoing practice of cultivating healthy self-esteem, Julie will introduce you to further practices. This class also includes a recorded Q&A about the course content.Â
Examples of the guided reflections and practical exercises covered in this session include:
Tuesday, October 14, from 1:30-3pm ET
You canât be in a healthy relationship without healthy self-esteem.
In this new live class, Terry will share why unhealthy self-esteem makes accountability so difficult, and how to move from defensiveness into genuine repair.Â
Thursday, October 16, from 1:30-3pm ET
This class provides a rare opportunity to get Terryâs direct advice on cultivating real self-esteem in your own life.
Perhaps youâll have questions like: âHow do I cope with the people I love who wonât do this work?â or âHow do I practice this in the heat of conflict?â â whatever you want to know, this is your chance to get the answers.Â
With a full 90-minutes dedicated to answering your questions, youâll also learn from the experiences of others facing similar challenges.
Choose the payment option that best suits you.Â
Weâre confident youâll love Real Self-Esteem, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason youâre not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 14 days of starting the course and weâll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
â It felt very profound and healing for me⌠I loved Terry's energy and how tenderly he spoke to the students when they came on to share. He made the concepts so clear and easy to understand and they really resonated with me. I appreciated his competence and his warmth. The five classes with him were life changing for me. â
â Michelle
â Something truly valuable.. Terryâs capacity to hold the spontaneity of whatever comes up with a sense of hope and tenderness, so whoever shares their experience, often with trepidation, takes something truly valuable away.â
â Amanda
â Loved Terry's interactions with students⌠His focus, presence, and compassion. His beautifully worded questions and gentle prodding. His eye contact. His expressions. The way he asked about tears. LOVED it all! His presence there will stay with me. â
â Gina Clowes
Choose the payment option that best suits you.Â
He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections â to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole. The author of four books, Terryâs most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment.Â
Known as âthe turnaround guy,â Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
Julie has been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Realâs Relational Life Therapy in 2008. She became certified in 2010, and since then, her practice and personal life has transformed.
Julie loves the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenet of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of her practice. She loves the role of âcoachâ in teaching the skills. She believes most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families.
Julie is also co-leader of the Relationship Boot Camp in Denver, which helps individuals and couples learn the skills in 2-day intensive workshops. A senior RLT therapist and a senior member of the RLT Faculty, Julie is part of the team responsible for training mental health practitioners in the Relational Life Therapy method.
This is a self-paced course including five recorded classes with Terry Real and two recorded classes and Q&A with Julie Rudiger, LCSW, from the RLT faculty.Â
You also have access to two LIVE bonus classes with Terry Real on:
Tuesday, October 14, from 1:30â3pm ETÂ
Thursday, October 16, from 1:30â3pm ET
Donât worry â all classes will be recorded and stored in your private learning platform, the RLT Hub, for you to watch at your convenience. Youâll receive log in and access details as soon as you sign up.Â
Forever! Youâll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.Â
If you commit to watching the course contents, doing the work, and practicing the skills Terry and his team will teach you, you can cultivate a more loving relationship with yourself. Your self-worth will not change overnight, but with dedicated practice, the insights and skills within this course can help you hold yourself in warm regard despite your imperfections and mistakes.Â
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.Â
đď¸ October 14 & October 16
When you join, you get:
đRemember, youâre fully protected by our 14-day money-back guarantee â so thereâs no risk in joining.
Homestudy Course Continuing Ed Details
This Home study course is approved for continuing education hours as described below.
NBCC (National Board of Certified Counsellors)
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
The course content is appropriate for Intermediate level clinicians.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is a transformative approach to couples work created by Terry Real that produces deep, profound, and lasting change in both individual partners and their relationships. Unlike traditional therapy models that separate character work from couples therapy, RLT integrates psychodynamic principles, family systems theory, feminism, trauma work, and addiction recovery into a cohesive framework designed to help people live authentically connected lives. This course introduces therapists to RLT’s distinctive methodology, which challenges conventional therapeutic practices by confronting difficult behaviors from the very first session, addressing both shame and grandiosity, taking sides when appropriate, and using judicious self-disclosure to model relationality.
Participants will learn how RLT differs from other modalities by doing deep character transformation and trauma work within the couples session itself, using the relationship as a crucible for accelerated healing.
This 3-hour foundational training covers the three core phases of RLT treatment: waking up the client through “joining through the truth,” conducting trauma work to understand and heal the adaptive child, and building relational skills that move clients beyond patriarchal patterns toward genuine intimacy. Participants will explore the tri-part model of the psycheâthe wise adult, adaptive child, and wounded childâand learn to identify the recursive feedback loops (“the more the more”) that keep couples stuck. The course addresses how to work with both one-up (grandiose) and one-down (shame-based) positions, understanding that true love requires neither superiority nor inferiority but relational democracy. Through lecture, demonstration videos, and case examples, therapists will gain practical tools for helping clients shift from knee-jerk reactivity to relational mindfulness, transforming their capacity for authentic connection with themselves and others.
Identify the three phases of Relational Life Therapy (Waking Up the Client, Trauma Work, and Skill Building) and their sequential role in the therapeutic process.
Differentiate between the three parts of the psyche in RLT (Wise Adult, Wounded Child, and Adaptive Child) and their functions in client behavior.
Describe the technique of “Joining Through the Truth” and how it builds therapeutic alliance while confronting difficult behaviors.
Distinguish between modeling and reacting as the two ways the Adaptive Child is formed in response to childhood experiences.
Explain the therapeutic benefits of conducting trauma work with the partner present in the room rather than in individual therapy.
Assess the three preconditions (untreated psychiatric disorders, active addictions, and acting out behaviors) that must be addressed before proceeding with couples therapy.
Contrast individual empowerment versus relational empowerment when teaching clients to stand up for themselves within relationships.
Apply the biosphere metaphor to help couples understand their interdependence and move from a control-based model to ecological wisdom.
3 NBCC credit hours
This course is $47.00
There is no conflict of interest for this program.
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Donât Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.  Terryâs work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of âfull-throttle marriage,â Terry has been called âthe most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.â approval.
Please Note:Â Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific boardâs approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459;Â
617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com; www.relationallife.comÂ
The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:
The RLT Level 1 Training Course
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.Â
FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT
Continuing Ed credits offered:Â 10 credit hours for 5 Classes
At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.
Content:
Over five live classes youâll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model.Â
Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of âone-down shameâ and âone-up grandiosityâ in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are âsame-asâ with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.
RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.
Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:
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Throughout the course, youâll learn:Â
Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFTâs, Educators, Chemical Dependency CounselorsÂ
Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.
Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each
Course Dates & Hours:Â
January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025
Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class
Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.
Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.
If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.
Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.
FAQâs
How do I receive the Zoom link?
The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com
Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?
Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family memberâs Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.
When will I get my certificate?
Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.
Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com
Instructorâs Bios:
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Donât Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.
He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Â Terryâs work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of âfull-throttle marriage,â Terry has been called âthe most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.â
Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors âthe worth and dignity of all peopleâ and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.
Anna Sterk, LMFT
Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022. Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.
Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:
Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the âscientist-practitionerâ model, and is devoted to getting RLT âevidence-basedâ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.
CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.
Grievance Procedure:
If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written
complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a
detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the
accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to
discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the
accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for
the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the
grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the
appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all
grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance
Procedure is available upon request.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com