Learn How To Guide Men Out of the Constraints of Traditional Masculinity and Into a More Relational Way of Living in Terry Real’s Men’s Intensive

For the first time ever, observe Terry’s LIVE interventions with 5 different men using his Relational Life Therapy method in this two-day workshop that will help strengthen your own work with men.

🗓  Tuesday, August 1–Wednesday, August 2, 2023 (10am-5pm ET both days).

“Men’s willingness to downplay weakness and pain is so great that it has been named as a factor in their shorter life span. The ten years of difference in longevity between men and women turns out to have little to do with genes. Men wait longer to acknowledge that they are sick, take longer to get help, and once they get treatment do not comply with it as well as women do.”

— Terry Real

Leading Men Into Intimacy Is Synonymous With Leading Them Out of Patriarchy

In our modern world many men are torn between two compelling versions of what it means to be a man: one version is traditional, older, unabashedly patriarchal, and centrally concerned with hierarchy and power; the other is modern, younger, ecological, and centrally concerned with mutuality and partnership. It’s difficult to imagine a contest with higher stakes.


And as therapists, helping men navigate these conflicting versions of masculinity can be difficult and overwhelming.


The good news is that we can rise to the challenge…


We can help men cultivate increased empathy and empower passive men to rise up and speak up. We can guide bullying men to take a breath and come down and help charming boy-men learn that it’s not always about them. The damaged, the destructive, the dependent—through therapy, immature men of all stripes can grow up. 


And you’ll learn exactly how to use powerful RLT techniques to get through to even the most resistant men in this first-of-its-kind LIVE online two-day workshop with Terry Real.

Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today,” and wrote the first book on male depression in the 1990s. 


This is your chance to witness Terry conduct deep work with 5 men one at a time in a group setting. Modeled on his enormously popular Couples Experiential, after each intervention, the other men will share what came up for them as they watched.


The results are nothing short of remarkable as you watch each man transform and move toward the next stage of his development and the group’s connection build.


You’ll leave having witnessed transformations that previously might have seemed impossible. And as a result of the Q&A, you’ll understand how it was able to happen, which will help you strengthen your own work with men.


Whether you’re already working with men or are curious to explore this area, the Men’s Intensive is a truly immersive learning experience that will open you up to new approaches and show you how to put them into practice.

How Does the Men’s Intensive Work?

The Men’s Intensive takes place entirely online over Zoom.
There are two elements of the workshop:



This is where you will observe Terry working in-depth with each man one at a time (spending 60-90 minutes per person), then watch as he encourages the other men to engage and provide feedback to the man who has just done the work. During this portion of the workshop, you will remain on mute and not participate in the sessions.


Each day will have dedicated time for Q&A with Terry (while the couples take a break) to discuss what happened in each session. This is where you can share your observations and ask Terry questions. He will be completely candid in his response, disclosing the RLT tools he used and explaining why he took certain stances.  

You also receive these special bonuses…

Working with the Many Parts of Men
with Richard Scwartz

In this 1-hour interview, Terry and Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), discuss working with men and concepts of masculinity through both the RLT and IFS lenses. 

From Boys to Men: Trauma and the Crisis of Masculinity with Carol Gilligan

A 1.5 hour conversation Terry and feminist psychologist Carol Gilligan, explore the influence of “traditional masculinity,” from how men learn to disconnect from their childhood wounds and emotions or behaviors that are deemed “weak” or “vulnerable.”

Male Aggression with Dr. James Gilligan

In this 1-hour interview, Terry is joined by Dr. James Gilligan, a legendary psychiatrist specialized in the causes and prevention of violent behavior, to discuss male aggression toward themselves, other men, and women. 

What You’ll Learn

In this immersive two-day workshop, you will watch a master therapist interact and intervene LIVE with 5 men to strengthen your own work with men.

You will…

You’ll come away with a clear understanding of the powerful diagnostic tools and reconnecting techniques that will help you swiftly get to the heart of men’s issues, which you can use in your own work.

Who Is This For?

The Men’s Intensive is for clinicians already working with men or looking to add men’s work to their offering. This is also beneficial for practitioners who work with individuals and would like an insight into how RLT translates to individual therapy.


Whether you are familiar with RLT or are brand new to the model, the Men’s Experiential will help therapists, coaches, and mental health practitioners deepen their understanding and strengthen their skills in working with men. 

Who Is This Not For?

This workshop isn’t suitable for non-mental health professionals. This is a learning and development workshop designed for clinicians working with men. If you’re a man looking for help with your own situation (or someone concerned about a man in your life), we recommend reading Terry’s book, I Don’t Want To Talk About It: The Secret Legacy of Male Depression.

Join Us for the Men’s Intensive

🗓  Tuesday, August 1–Wednesday, August 2, 2023 (10am-5pm ET both days).

Single Pay

$ 300

The deepest training in the RLT model.

Did you know...

This course is part of the RLT Certification program
To learn more, get the free guide

Did you know...

This course is part of the RLT Certification program
To learn more, get the free guide

The deepest training in the RLT model.

What Your Colleagues Have To Say About Observing Terry’s Work

“Watching Terry do his “thing” and my actually writing down some of what he said to use with my own clients. I am amazed at how loving and direct he is at the same time. I have the direct part down as a coach but need to work more on the loving and soft tones. I really loved the interactions with the other participants. When you watch the replays you don’t get to see those or participate in them.”

– Nancy Pickard, master integrative life coach and bestselling author

“It was my first time joining the Couples Experiential. I am still impressed to see how a theory (the relational approach) enters the reality of couples and transforms it quietly. I also loved how this was embedded in a really smart teaching choreography, and for this especially the constant line and authentic mode of reflections within the dialogue between Terry and the students.”

— Dr. habil. Antje Schneider, scientist in the field of Intercultural Communication and Systemic Counselor

“Observing Terry was extraordinary, powerful – lives changed, including, perhaps, my own. The ‘debriefing” was essential. Amazing training!”

— Amy West, MFT, Detroit, MI

“I loved the format. Being able to watch Terry work with a variety of very troubled relationships was both educational and inspiring. Time to ask questions following the sessions was really helpful as well.”

— Mariah

Frequently Asked Questions

The workshop takes place online via Zoom so you can observe from the comfort of your own home. You will receive your Zoom link about 24 hours prior to the first day.

The price for two days of observation is $300 per person. 

Generally, the workshop begins at 10 am Eastern Time each day, and the interventions finish at 4:00 pm. Terry invites observers to remain with him during lunch and for another 45-60 minutes at the end for the Q&A. However, as this is a live workshop, timings may vary.

Don’t worry—you can still register as all sessions and debriefs will be recorded for you to watch at your convenience.

11 CEUs are available to therapists who attend live for an additional $25 fee. Please be aware this purchase is separate from your registration fee of $300 and will be offered only after the event. For more details click here.

No, you will be muted during the men’s sessions and group feedback. This will help you get the most out of your observation. You will be able to discuss the sessions at length and ask questions during the dedicated Q&A with Terry. 

Yes—when you enroll in the RLT Certification (our deepest, richest couples therapy training), you unlock unlimited access to the Men’s Intensive and Terry’s Couples Experientials for 24 months. Find more information on the RLT Certification here.

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) combines the most effective techniques from multiple therapies to create a state-of-the-art, integrated method to powerfully heal relationships. RLT breaks many of the rules of traditional therapy to go deep quickly and help clients make rapid and significant changes. 

Using a range of powerful diagnostic and transformative tools, RLT helps people to first reconnect to themselves—their feelings, needs, and desires—to build stronger, deeper connections with others. 


Continuing Ed Details for the “Mens Intensive Workshop”
August 1 and 2, 2023

CEs have been applied for.

This online course for 11 CEs; the offer will expire 60 days after the workshop completes.

Further information is listed below.


To collect 11 CE credits, you must be enrolled and participate in both August 1 and 2 for the entirety of the 2-day workshop and paid the enrollment fee of $300.  

Attendance will be taken.

To collect your certificate once the event has completed, you will receive an email invitation to purchase the credits for an additional $40; once the fee is paid, you’ll follow the instructions to receive your certificate by email.

There are no exceptions. 

Presenter Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), which offers workshops to couples, individuals, and parents around the country, along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.  Like many, Terry experienced trauma as a child. His commitment to leading both individuals and couples into a more ecological and relational world stems from his desire to avoid repeating the patterns of trauma, sparing his children and helping them live a better life.   A family therapist and teacher for more than 30 years, Terry is the best-selling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. His latest book, US: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship is a NY Times Bestseller. Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy—and greater personal fulfillment.

Workshop Description:

The “Mens Intensive Workshop” is an intensive, 2-day workshop for 5 men wanting to work intensively on their personal issues and to improve their relationships. In addition, The Workshop also welcomes an audience of professional therapists and coaches to observe the workshop and have the opportunity to see the Relational Life Model in action. The observers are not seen nor heard, they do not participate in the work with the men, they observe and learn the model. The observers will have daily debriefing sessions with the Instructor (Terry Real) to review the deep therapy they witnessed each day both during the lunch break and at the end of the day once the men depart.

Workshop POINTS

Individuals will repair their relationship to themselves and others through deep intensive relational life therapy.
Each man will work one at a time on their biggest personal challenges, either trauma based, childhood based, current behaviors not serving well, work issues and relationships of any kind (family, friend, partner, work, etc.).  
Professional Observers will learn first-hand, how to implement the tools of relational life therapy with men in particular, and also women clients.
Professional Observers will receive “REAL TIME” guidance from instructor as he/she works with a client in front of the group.
Professional Observers will receive daily debriefing from instructor of main points used that day in therapy work.
Everyone will gain insight into how to use valuable RLT tools to repair a variety of core issues as well as how to navigate these challenges.

Any questions regarding accreditation must be directed to you own Board Authority.

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in, attended the entire seminar, completed an evaluation, and signed out in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available. Certificates available after satisfactory course completion at www.ceuregistration.com

NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Psychology as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed psychologists #PSY-0018. 11 contact hours. Live online.

Social Workers
IL-SWs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #159.000785.  11 CE hour.
MN: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the Minnesota Board of Social Work, CEP #2281 approval 12/27/22 – 12/27/23.  11 CE hour.
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Work as an approved provider (#0006) of continuing education for licensed social workers. This program is approved for 11 contact hours Live online.
OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for 11 clock hour, #RCST110701

Counselors/Marriage and Family Therapists
IL-MFTs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #168-000141. 11 hours.
NY-LMHCs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors. #MHC-0015.  11 contact hours. Live online.
NY-LMFTs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists. #MFT-0011.  11 contact hours. Live online.
OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for 11 clock hour, #RCST110701
TX: Approved CE Sponsor through the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage & Family Therapists. Provider #151 11 CE hour.

Creative Arts Therapists
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed creative arts therapists, #CAT-0005. 11 contact hours. Live online.

Chemical Dependency Counselors
CA: Provider approved by CCAPP, Provider #4N-00-434-0555 for 1vCEH. CCAPP is an ICRC member which has reciprocity with most ICRC member states
TX: Provider approved by the TCBAP Standards Committee, Provider No. 1749-06, 11 hoursgeneral. Expires 1/31/24.  Complaints about provider or workshop content may be directed to the TCBAP Standards Committee, 1005 Congress Avenue, Ste. 460, Austin, Texas 78701, Fax Number (515) 476-7597.

TX: R. Cassidy Seminars is an approved provider with the Texas Education Agency CPE# 501456. This course is 11 CE hour.

CA: Provider approved by the CA Board of Registered Nursing, Provider #CeP15554, for 11 contact hours.

CA: R. Cassidy Seminars is a provider approved by the Dental Board of California as a registered provider of continuing education. RP# 4874 11 CE hour.

Disability Access – If you require ADA accommodations, please contact our office 30 days ormore before the event. We cannot ensure accommodations without adequate prior notification.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.

Learning Objectives:

Specify how one can hold themselves in warm regard even when they mess up
Describe how to have healthy boundaries.
Demonstrate speaking up with love and responding non-defensively.
Diagnose the impact of inner child work on the individuals’ life.
Identify circumstances where the blatant t framework doesn’t seem appropriate. 
Differentiate positive and negative leverage. 
Describe the dysfunctional family of origin backstory to a repetitive dialogue.
Formulate a personal diagnosis – where are they stuck?
Utilize the art of lovingly confronting a client in a way that leaves them feeling more trusting.
Learn to use yourself to amplify the client’s progress, cutting through shame and grandiosity.
Demonstrate healthy boundaries.