The new LIVE workshop from men’s expert Terry Real

Why the Rules of Masculinity You’ve Been Taught Are Wrecking Your Relationships, Happiness, and Health

  • Tuesday, August 12
  • 12:00 PM – 3:00 PM ET

This workshop will challenge some of your beliefs about being a good man – but not to tear you down. To help you build something better.

It Seems Everyone Wants More From Us Than Ever Before…

Our partners want more. Our kids want more. Even our coworkers want more! We’re called to be sensitive but still strong. But that seems like a contradiction. We’re confused.

We don’t know what’s expected of us.

Maybe…

You work hard, but it never seems to be enough.

You feel cut off even though you long to feel connected to others.

You’re tired of living in constant competition with the guy next to you.

You feel inexplicably angry and easily snap at those closest to you.

Or you might even feel fine… but never anything else.

And if you’re tired of feeling like you’re just going through the motions, you’re not alone.

Like many men, you may wonder:

What does it even mean to be a “good man” today?

Discover the answer – and the roadmap to realize it – in this live workshop led by renowned therapist and expert in men’s issues, Terry Real. 

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The Truth Is:

The People Around Us Are Right To Want More… and We Deserve More, Too

So what does more actually look like?

This workshop will help you open your heart while retaining your strength to build richer, more fulfilling relationships.

Imagine feeling…

  • Closer to the people who matter to you, able to connect with compassion.
  • Able to express your emotions without feeling “weak” or powerless.
  • Comfortable accepting help from time to time and no longer pressured to be “the problem solver.”
  • Like you don’t have to push to prove yourself, knowing your worth doesn’t lie in what you have or achieve. 
  • Confident that you have the tools to handle conflict without shutting down or blowing up. 

None of this is weakness. And it’s the foundations of a life that feels nourishing, connected, whole. 

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“ Men's willingness to downplay weakness and pain is so great that it has been named as a factor in their shorter life span. The ten years of difference in longevity between men and women turns out to have little to do with genes. Men wait longer to acknowledge that they are sick, take longer to get help, and once they get treatment do not comply with it as well as women do. ”

—  Terry Real, I Don't Want to Talk About It

What’s Really Going On With Men Right Now?

For generations, men were taught that invulnerability is the essence of masculinity. That the tougher you are, the more of a “real man” you become.

But under that old script, you were forced to deny half of your own humanity:


Hide your feelings.


Swallow your needs.

Stay stoic.

Be invulnerable. 

But that is a recipe for loneliness. For failed relationships. For health issues.

And if we swing too far in the other direction – to always be soft and sensitive – we’re still denying half of ourselves.

What you need is to be whole: a strong, sexy, brilliant, big-hearted, loving man.

And you can be – you just need to learn how.

None of this is weakness. And it’s the foundations of a life that feels nourishing, connected, whole. 

Become a One-Man Revolution

Gain the roadmap to meet the new demands of masculinity – and enjoy more meaningful relationships, greater happiness, and better health. 

You’ll Learn:

  • Why traditional masculine ideals have made so many men lonely, numb, or angry.
  • Why too much confidence can actually be harmful – and what real self-esteem is.
  • What it means to be relational, and why connection is as essential to your health.
  • How to be adaptable: Sweet when it’s called for and tough when it’s called for.
  • How to stand your ground and be assertive, without coming across as dominating.
  • What intimacy really is – and the skills to do it better. 
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This workshop will challenge some of your beliefs about being a good man – but not to tear you down. To help you build something better.

What You Get When You Join the LIVE Workshop

LIVE 3-Hour Workshop

Lifetime access to the recording

100% Money-Back Guarantee

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Who Is This For?

Men of all ages, backgrounds, and professions who want to step up and become models of a new masculinity – one that’s strong when needed, sensitive when needed. One that’s whole. Maybe you’re…

  • A young man trying to find your way in a world that makes zero sense…
  • A husband stuck in the same arguments…
  • A father who wants to stop passing on the pain…
  • A man who’s tired of living cut off from real connection…
  • Or someone looking to support the men close to you…

This workshop will help you take the first step toward a more fulfilling, whole way of living.

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You’re Not the Only One Ready for Change 

The old model of masculinity is hurting us and the people we love. It’s not working. But through this work, more and more people are discovering a new path toward the life they want to live.  

“ Research is clear. As a human species, we are designed to be relational. It’s what keeps us healthy. Traditional masculinity knocks us out of connection. And a lot of men equate learning how to be more skillfully connected with weakness. They’re wrong. ”

—  Terry Real

What To Expect From This Workshop

Over 3 hours, Terry will help you navigate the difficulties facing men in our current culture. He’ll share the roadmap to help you move beyond the traditional idea of masculinity society has taught you, and into connection and collaboration.

There will be space for Q&A if you wish to ask Terry a question on the content or advice on your specific challenges. However, you can also attend the workshop with your camera off and not say a word. All we ask is that you come with an open mind.

Known for his straight-talking, no-nonsense style, Terry uses warmth, humor, and compassion to ensure you feel understood, heard, and safe.

Expect deep, no-holds-barred communication but in an immensely non-judgemental environment where you are always supported.

Terry Real

has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.

A family therapist and expert in men’s issues, Terry Real is
the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections – to themselves, each other, and the planet.

The bestselling author of four books, Terry wrote the first ever book on male depression – I Don’t Want To Talk About It – in the 1990s. Terry’s most recent book is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment. 

Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.

Terry is committed to relational empowerment, helping everyone develop the skills needed for meaningful, lasting relationships.

And If You’re Still Thinking…

Why Should I Listen To This Guy?

From Terry Real:

Because I’ve lived this. 

I’ve learned a lot from my therapeutic training but I am also sharing from my own recovery. If you feel angry, lost, confused, numb, if you’re withdrawing from those who love you, I get it. I’ve been there. I self-medicated with workaholism. I drank too much. I didn’t like myself very much.

None of that is true for me now.

And let me tell you something, being like this is better than being like that. If you come from a dysfunctional culture, so do I. If you come from a dysfunctional family, so do I.

And if I can do it, so can you. Will let me show you how?

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What Other People Say About Terry’s Work

“ The dots’ are beginning to connect for me. Attending a workshop like this and listening closely to TR et al, made the connections between those dots stronger and clearer, and assisted me to validate my interpretation of all of my readings to date. My journey to understand my SELF and heal, to become a better person, husband, father etc has been a long road. I am cherishing every moment of this journey. ”

—  Jim MacDougall (on Terry’s Unstuck workshop)

“ It is helpful to see Terry challenging people with compassion and empathy.  Empathy without challenge does not produce change. Challenge without empathy chases people out of the room. ”

—  Chris (on Terry’s Unstuck workshop)

“ I was an old fashioned male skeptic from a non-communicative family, whose marriage is in serious crisis. The workshop demonstrated how deep our crisis is, but with a tiny pinprick of hope… The larger question from the workshop is how / if our marriage can or should be saved. This workshop was extraordinary and worth watching every minute of three hours. You will cry throughout. ”

—  Douglas (on Terry’s Unstuck workshop)
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What You Get When You Join the LIVE Workshop

LIVE 3-Hour Workshop

Lifetime access to the recording

100% Money-Back Guarantee

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We’re confident you’ll find this workshop helpful, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the live workshop (on Tuesday, August 12 at 12 pm ET) and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

Frequently Asked Questions

When is the live workshop?

The live workshop takes place on Tuesday, August 12, from 12–3pm ET. 

If you can’t join us live, we recommend still registering as you receive lifetime access to the recording. 

The workshop will take place over Zoom. As soon as you sign up, you’ll receive a confirmation email from us with your Zoom link to join on the day. We’ll also send you reminder emails in the days before, as well as one hour prior to the workshop. These will all contain your Zoom link. 

You can still sign up! You receive lifetime access to the recording. This will be stored in your private learning platform (if you’re new to our courses, you will receive login details via email as soon as you sign up). 

Maybe you don’t need the roadmap Terry will share. That’s for you to decide. However, this workshop will help you see some of the hidden effects of traditional masculine ideals that even the most awake men may not be aware of. And if you still don’t think it’s for you, perhaps come along to learn what some of the men around you may be experiencing and how you support them. 

No – this is about men becoming whole. If we confine ourselves to the traditional masculine ideal, we deny half of our humanity. And if we swing too far in the other direction, only vulnerable, only sensitive, we also deny half of ourselves. Just as women have learned to assert themselves with love, men can learn to open their hearts with strength, both becoming whole. Terry wants men to step up and meet the new demands for relationality, collaboration, and connection. This work is about creating strong, capable, sensitive, relational, whole men, women, and non-binary folk. 

No – you can join with your camera off and say nothing for the whole workshop. Terry will do most of the talking as he shares insights and tools designed to help you. He will open up space for Q&A, and only those who wish to share their experiences or ask a question will be called on. 

Yes – this workshop is for anyone curious about the current state of masculinity. Women and non-binary folk are welcome, too. It affects us all. In this workshop, you’ll discover what’s really going on under the surface for men today – and the roadmap to help them out of crisis and into connection.

Yes – this workshop will help you gain an understanding of some of the issues men are facing today and how this can show up in their behaviors and relationships. 

We’re confident you’ll find this workshop helpful, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the live workshop (on Tuesday, August 12 at 12 pm ET) and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked. 

Please contact us at support@terryreal.com. 

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

The RLT Level 1 Training Course

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT

Continuing Ed credits offered:  10 credit hours for 5 Classes

At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.

Content:

Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model. 

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy
  2. Describe the role and approach of the therapists in RLT
  3. List the seven lenses
  4. Explain the role of data gathering

  

Throughout the course, you’ll learn: 

    • True intimacy can only happen when partners are “same as”—neither one-up nor one-down
    • That RLT Therapists and Coaches will confront and teach their clients how to actually live relationally
    • How to use the RLT Lenses in Intervention & Finding Leverage
    • How RLT Therapists and Coaches use judicious self-disclosure, sharing stories of they use these same skills in their own relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each

Course Dates & Hours: 

January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025

Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class

Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.

Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.

FAQ’s

How do I receive the Zoom link?

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate?

Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com

Instructor’s Bios:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.

Anna Sterk, LMFT

Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022.  Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.

Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:

Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written

complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a

detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the

accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to

discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the

accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the

grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the

appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all

grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance

Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com