Introducing Living Love, the First-Ever Group Coaching Program Based on Terry Real’s Groundbreaking RLT Method, Led by Two of His Most Trusted RLT Faculty Members:
Living Love:
8 Weeks To Break the Cycle and Build the Skills for an Extraordinary Relationship
LIVE group coaching, exclusively limited to 20 participants, to guide you out of the painful cycle of conflict and disconnection, and equip you with the skills to build an extraordinary relationship — for individuals and couples ready for real, lasting change.
What if you could finally create the deeply
connected, meaningful relationship you dream of?
Imagine if you were no longer stuck in the same painful patterns.
No more shutting down or lashing out. No more chasing, blaming, or walking on eggshells just to keep the peace.
You wouldn’t keep sweeping issues under the rug, letting resentment eat away at intimacy until there’s nothing left. You’d know how to ask for what you need — and have your partner willingly respond in a way that works for both of you.
You wouldn’t be stuck in the same never-ending fights. You’d have the tools to handle hard conversations in a way that creates connection, not distance.
You wouldn’t waste another year hoping things will magically change.
You’d be the change — you’d show up differently and experience everything powerfully shift from there.
For over 30 years, the tools and skills of Relational Life Therapy have helped thousands of individuals and couples around the world break free from old patterns and build relationships that truly work.
Now it’s your turn.
Intimacy isn’t something you have, it’s something you do, and when you learn to do that work — with the right support, structure, and skills — transformation is inevitable.
You’ve seen the pattern. Now it’s time to change it.
You’ve done the workshop. You’ve named your destructive dance — what Terry Real calls “the more the more.”
You’ve seen how your past wounds play out in the present, and how your Adaptive Child takes the wheel when conflict hits.
You’re tired of “shutting up and putting up” with bad behavior to avoid another blowout, and are painfully aware you’re stuck in a cycle that’s costing you both the joy of real intimacy.
And yet, when the heat rises… you go right back to it.
This is no longer a recognition problem. It’s a practice problem.
This Isn’t Just About Learning New Skills…
Because Skills Alone Isn’t Enough – We Work With the Part of You Who Won’t Use them.
The part that is reactive and forgets love. The part that shuts down, lashes out, or tries to “fix” everything at the cost of your own needs.
Without the right relational skills, most people will spend the next 40 years having the same argument. But ending this fight is not something you have to figure out alone.
Through guided practice, expert feedback, and loving accountability, you can build new relational muscles — and transform your old, losing strategies in just 8 weeks.
Are you ready to move from awareness into action… and finally break the cycle for good?
Introducing:
Living Love: 8 Weeks To Break the Cycle and Build the Skills for an Extraordinary Relationship
A One-Time, Exclusive Coaching Experience — Limited to Just 20 Participants — to Build the Skills to Transform Your Relationship and Heal in Community
Knowing your patterns is powerful, but transforming them takes more than awareness. That’s where this first-of-its-kind RLT group coaching experience begins.
Led by two esteemed RLT faculty members, Kate Harris and Michael Evans, this interactive live group coaching program guides you step-by-step through the real work of ending destructive relational patterns and building an extraordinary relationship.
Across 8 LIVE sessions, you’ll be introduced to the essential RLT skills used by therapists around the world to radically transform relationships.
More importantly, you’ll be supported in practicing them in your daily life.
Whether you attend solo or with a partner, you’ll receive personalized expert guidance, and join an intimate group of 20 participants committed to healing and growth — giving you the accountability and structure you need for real, lasting relational change.
You’ll walk away with a clear path forward. One that brings you closer to yourself, your partner, and the love you’ve been asking for.
Join RLT Group Coaching and take the next step toward true transformation.
About Your Teachers
Kate Harris
PhD, Senior RLT Faculty
Kate is a Clinical Psychologist and a Certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work with 5 couples and was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honours “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligned clearly with her values. Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with her husband gave them the tools that they use to stay close to each other and deepened their 33-year marriage.
Kate became an RLT certified therapist in 2018 and is grateful to be able to help spread the skills of relational living. She remains inspired by the people who show up to learn how to live and love with deep respect to others and the world we share.
Michael Evans
LCSW, RLT Trainer
Michael Evans is a Licensed Certified Social Worker specializing in individual and couples therapy, with a focus on trauma recovery using EMDR and Post Induction Therapy. His approach is rooted in Pia Mellody’s treatment model, similar to those used at the Meadows Treatment Center in Wickenburg, Arizona, and the Green Shoe Foundation in Edmond, Oklahoma.
As a Certified Relational Life Therapist, trained under Terry Real, Michael works with couples of all kinds, helping them build stronger, healthier relationships. He is also an RLT Trainer, mentoring therapists across the U.S., Canada, and Europe who are becoming certified in Relational Life Therapy. Additionally, he serves as an adjunct instructor of Sociology at National Park College and provides supervision for post-graduate students working toward licensure.
How Relational Life Therapy Has Helped Others
Terry Real’s Boot Camp was life-changing for me and my husband. We’ve been together 30+ years so it’d be fair to wonder what would we possibly have to work on. My love-avoidant, grandiose man said this shifted our relationship to a deeper, more loving level; his love-dependent, grandiose wife agrees. The Boot Camp weekend opened up new ways to talk, to see ourselves and to love each other.
— Sarah P., Portland, OR
My wife and I both found RLI’s workshop to be exceptional, and well worth the time and effort to fly to Boston. I would recommend it highly, particularly to couples having communication problems. RLI’s approach is unique, but common sense, so it is easy to understand and, hopefully, to apply.
— A.M., Toronto
I have found that most couples really want a relationship that works for both people and they have no idea how to make that happen. Once they learn that implementing a set of learned skills can achieve their goal, the majority of couples are willing to do things differently. They become empowered to change!
— J.G., Dallas, TX
RLT teaches us all to stand up for relationship, to ask our partner what they need so they in turn can deliver us what will make us happy! And since it busts the hidden truths of patriarchy, it is the couples model of diversity and equality that adapts to change, as we learn to enrich the biosphere of the relationships that feed us.
— Jac Palmer, London, UK
What Makes Our Living Love Group Coaching Program Unique
Over 8 x 2-hour workshops, esteemed RLT faculty members Kate Harris and Michael Evans will guide you on the rarefied path to connection, intimacy, and fulfilling relationships.
You won’t just learn what to do — you’ll be actively coached on how to do it, with the personalized guidance to apply each skill to your real-life relationship dynamics.
Each session will guide you through essential RLT skills, practical exercises to help you apply what you learn in your daily life, and homework to develop your progress between workshops.
You’ll work with an intimate 20-participant group made up of individuals and couples facing similar struggles as you learn, discuss, practice, reflect, and heal in community.
Plus, gain direct feedback from your senior senior RLT coaches who can help you clearly identify where you’re stuck and what you and your partner need to move forward together. You’ll also be invited to join a dedicated WhatsApp group with your fellow participants, so you can share your wins, breakthroughs, and experiences and access additional resources.
This is the difference between trying to figure it out alone and being walked, step-by-step, down the relational path to finally experience the intimacy, repair, and partnership you’ve been longing for.
This is the difference between trying to figure it out alone and being walked, step-by-step, down the relational path to finally experience the intimacy, repair, and partnership you’ve been longing for
The full calendar of dates is below:
Wednesday, May 14, 2025
Wednesday, May 21, 2025
Wednesday, May 28, 2025
Wednesday, June 4, 2025
Wednesday, June 11, 2025
Wednesday, June 18, 2025
Wednesday, June 25, 2025
Wednesday, July 9, 2025
From 10am - 12pm ET
A New Way Forward Starts Here
Over 8 LIVE sessions, you’ll learn
1
The destructive cycle keeping you stuck — and what it will take to shift it
2
How your Adaptive Child sabotages intimacy and how to step into your Wise Adult
3
How to build healthy self-esteem and boundaries that keep you protected and connected
4
Where you fall on the Relationship Grid and how to get back into the center of health
5
To use your Loving Power to assert your needs without pushing your partner away
6
To speak with clarity and compassion, and learn how to listen without defensiveness
7
How to remember love and respond generously — even in moments of conflict
8
Ways to cherish your connection, solidify your changes, and commit to a new way of relating
…And so much more.
The Curriculum
Inside RLT Group Coaching: 10 LIVE Workshops with 2 Esteemed RLT Faculty Members
Week
1
Introductions and Naming the Vicious Cycle
Begin your journey by identifying the repeating patterns that keep you stuck. You’ll uncover how your current dynamic reinforces disconnection and what it will take to break free.
- Welcome introduction to your group coaching sessions and RLT Coaches
- Housekeeping rules and and setting the stage for your journey
- Introductions, ice breakers, and “the miracle question”
Week
2
Adaptive Child Drive the Losing Strategies
Explore the part of you that shows up in moments of stress and disconnection. This week is about recognizing your reactive self, and learning how to shift into your Wise Adult.
- Discover how your Adaptive Child strategies developed
- Identify your "losing strategies" and how they sabotage connection
- Shift from reactive impulse to relational choice
Week
3
Self-Esteem and Boundaries
Identify how your sense of self-esteem and boundaries impact the way you connect. This week, you’ll learn how to hold your limits with love, stay grounded in your truth, and remain both protected and connected.
- Discover how low or inflated self-esteem disrupts healthy connection
- Identify whether you exhibit boundaryless or walled off behavior
- Practice building supple, relational boundaries that support intimacy
Week
4
The Relationship Grid
Discover where you land on the Relationship Grid and how self-esteem and boundaries shape your relational style. You and your partner will begin to move from harsh self-judgment or inflated self-importance into warm, healthy self-regard.
- Understand your self-esteem profile and how you show up in relationships
- Explore the interplay of grandiosity, shame, and carried feelings
- Identify where you go off the rails and how to get back into the center of health
Week
5
Loving Power — Asking For What You Want
Break free from resentment and passivity. This session helps you find your voice and lovingly assert your needs in a way your partner will hear and respond to.
- Shift from complaint to request
- Use Loving Power to stand up for yourself and remain connected
- Learn the 3 phases of getting more of what you want in a relationship
Week
6
Speaking to Make Things Better and Listening to Understand — The Feedback Wheel
Learn to communicate in a way that strengthens connection, not feeds conflict. You’ll explore the Feedback Wheel and other RLT tools to deepen your relational skills .
- Practice speaking with clarity, kindness, and accountability
- Learn how to truly listen without defensiveness
- Use the Feedback Wheel to navigate difficult conversations
Week
7
Remembering Love and Responding with Generosity
When the heat is on, we become triggered, and our love for our partner can easily become forgotten. This week, you’ll build the capacity to stay present, especially when conflict arises.
- Shift from reactivity to responsiveness
- Learn skills to become seated in your present Wise Adult
- Practice the art of relational mindfulness
Week
8
Cherishing What You Have
Wrap up the journey by integrating what you’ve learned. This final session is about celebrating your growth and anchoring lasting change.
- Reflect on how far you’ve come
- Identify the rituals and practices that keep love alive
- Commit to showing up relationally — for yourself and those you love
The Curriculum
Inside RLT Group Coaching: 10 LIVE Workshops with Senior RLT Therapists and Educators
What People Say About Relational Life Therapy
(The Method Behind Living Love Group Coaching)
If you’re tired of the same old dance, get ready to learn a few new steps—real steps—the ones that will make a difference in your life and the lives of those you love.
— Cheryl Richardson, author
of Life Makeovers
Thank you for introducing me to the real Laurence, and for introducing him to himself. I am happier in our relationship than I have been in many many years. I use the strategies you taught us with Laurence as well as with my siblings and friends. They work! If we never found someone willing to be straight and honest we would not be together , that much I know. Your honesty about Laurence allowed me to stand down. Now that I am able to stand down I am able to try to be the person I want to be in this relationship.
— Daniella S
Bonuses Included When You Join Today
Bonus #1:
Lifetime Access to the Workshop Recordings
Once the program ends, we will make all recordings available in your private learning platform for you to refer back to as often as you need. (Recordings won’t be available before to encourage live participation so you receive the most of your experience.)
($300 Value)
Bonus #2:
Access to the Exclusive Living Love WhatsApp Group
You can join the dedicated WhatsApp group exclusive to your group of 20 participants, where our team will share helpful resources, you can share your wins and experiences and receive extra resources.
($300 Value)
You're Protected With Our 100% Money-Back Guarantee
We know that $995 is a significant investment in yourself and your future. You might not be sure that this program will work or what makes it so different from the other things you may have tried in the past. That’s perfectly understandable.
To prove that this will be the single best investment you can make for yourself and your relationships, you’re eligible for our 100% money-back guarantee as soon as you enroll.
If within 48 hours of the first live call you don’t feel this is the right program for you, then you’ll receive a 100% refund on the program. There are no tricks or hidden cancellations pages, just email our team at support@terryreal.com and we’ll immediately arrange your refund.
Once you join today and get started with Living Love, the guarantee will automatically apply.
What You Get When You Enroll Today
The Complete Living Love Group Coaching Program Including 8 LIVE Workshops
($1000 Value)
Lifetime Access to the Workshop Recordings
($500 Value)
Access to the Exclusive Living Love WhatsApp Group
($200 Value)
Unconditional 48-Hour Money Back Guarantee
How Relational Life Therapy Has Helped Others
The couples work that you do is so valuable — we are relating now in a wholly new and expansive way. It’s what each of us knew we were missing but could not have found on our own. Thank you so much!
— Tod, Boston, MA
Frequently Asked Questions
You will receive 8 x 2 hour live workshops which take place over Zoom from 10am – 12pm ET on the following dates:
- Wednesday, May 14, 2025
- Wednesday, May 21, 2025
- Wednesday, May 28, 2025
- Wednesday, June 4, 2025
- Wednesday, May 14, av2025
- Wednesday, June 18, 2025
- Wednesday, June 25, 2025
- Wednesday, July 9, 2025
To truly benefit from this coaching experience, it’s essential that you show up, participate, and engage with the work live each week. This is not a passive program — the transformation comes through doing the exercises, reflecting on the homework, and being part of the group process in real-time.
That said, we know life can happen. If you miss a session, all calls will be recorded and available inside the RLT Hub after the program concludes. You will receive login details and instructions on how to access the Hub once you join. You’ll be able to catch up on the content, but the real payoff comes from being there live, present, and committed to the process.
Yes – we will record the workshops to be shared with participants only. Recordings will be made available in your secure learning platform once the program ends. We will not share recordings before the final workshop as live attendance is crucial for getting the most from this experience.
Yes, the live workshops will all take place via Zoom.
Each call will take place on Zoom. You will receive your Zoom call link via email (it will also be inside the RLT Hub, our dedicated learning platform).
Forever! As soon as you sign up, we send you logins for your learning platform, the RLT Hub, where you have lifetime access to all course materials.
There are no certainties, but this program contains the guidance, accountability, and powerful relational skills that can help you and your partner reconnect, nurture your relationship, and move forward together.
The skills and exercises in this program are rooted in Relational Life Therapy — the revolutionary approach to couples therapy created by New York Times bestselling author Terry Real, which has helped thousands of couples repair their relationships and enjoy a connected, fulfilling partnership.
Yes — relational skills are relational skills. As well as romantic relationships, these skills apply to your relationship with yourself, friendships, family, and coworkers. If you’re single, dating, and looking to enjoy more fulfilling relationships, these skills will prove beneficial.
Yes, it’s great if you can both do the work together, but this is about understanding what you can do to transform your relationship. By changing your own responses and behaviors, you invite a different response from your partner.
You’re welcome to pass at any particular moment — but we encourage you to come ready to share. We’ll be holding small group breakout rooms, and you’ll likely find that many other couples are experiencing similar challenges, so you can learn a lot from their questions and experiences.
Yes — everyone is welcome. Whatever your sexuality, gender identity, or relationship status: relational skills are relational skills and they apply to all relationships.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is Terry Real’s radical approach to couples therapy that breaks many of the rules of traditional couples therapy. Notably, RLT emphasizes the importance of people learning the ongoing skills they need to nurture and cherish their relationships long after their time in therapy is over. It’s these core skills you will learn in Living Love to help you create meaningful relationships and keep the spark alive.
We’re confident you’ll love this program, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.
What You Get When You Enroll Today
The Complete Living Love Group Coaching Program Including 8 LIVE Workshops
($1000 Value)
Lifetime Access to the Workshop Recordings
($500 Value)
Access to the Exclusive Living Love WhatsApp Group
($200 Value)
Unconditional 48-Hour Money Back Guarantee
