🗓️ Wednesday, December 10 12PM – 3PM ET

Stop Living In Limbo

Is It Time To Say Goodbye or Roll up Your Sleeves and Fight for Your Relationship?

Gain the insights and skills you need to decide whether your relationship is worth fighting for in the LIVE 3-hour workshop with Terry Real.

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Terry Real, couples therapist, speaker & NY Times bestselling author

🗓️ Wednesday, December 10 12PM – 3PM ET

Stop Living In Limbo

Is It Time To Say Goodbye or Roll up Your Sleeves and Fight for Your Relationship?

Gain the insights and skills you need to decide whether your relationship is worth fighting for in the LIVE 3-hour workshop with Terry Real.

Join LIVE for just $47
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Join leading couples therapist Terry Real for a LIVE workshop to help you decide.

🗓️ Wednesday, December 10 | 12PM–3PM ET 

How To Make the Most Painful Decision of Your Life:


Should I Stay or Should I Go?

When the relationship that was once full of joy becomes a place of weariness, resentment, or quiet despair… how do you know whether to fight for it, or lovingly let it go?

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When Staying Feels Lonely… And Leaving Feels Terrifying.

You’ve tried. You’ve talked, you’ve waited, you’ve swallowed your disappointment and hoped things would get better. But your unhappiness and resentment only grows. It seems no matter what you try, you just can’t get through to your partner. Perhaps nights are spent lying awake next to someone who feels a million miles away.


Some days you wonder if leaving would mean you’ve given up too soon, others, if you’re abandoning yourself by staying…

This is the exact space Terry calls stable ambiguity – a painful emotional limbo where many couples get stuck for months, years, even decades. 


And that limbo of indecision is draining. It’s exhausting. The uncertain dance of one foot in, one foot out is no good for either of you.

Why Is It So Hard to Decide (Even When You’re Unhappy)?

It’s your birthright to be in a relationship that is fundamentally cherishing


And living for years in emotional distance, disappointment, or quiet marital misery is not noble – it’s harmful. To you, your partner, and your children.

But that doesn’t automatically mean you should leave. Some relationships – even those that feel like a lost cause – have the potential to dramatically transform. 

And yet sometimes, even with that work and despite your best efforts and your partner’s efforts, you may decide it’s better to let go. 

Only you can make the decision – and this workshop is designed to support you as you grapple with that question.

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Over these 3 hours, Terry will guide you through:

  • Why we get stuck in this stable ambiguity.
  • What you can do to invite the change you’re longing for.
  • When to seek help from a therapist.
  • The tool for when you’ve tried everything to decide whether to stay or go.

And there will be lots of space for discussion as you have the opportunity to ask Terry’s advice on your specific situation, as well as learn from the challenges others are facing.

Stay Or Go?

Join The 3-Hour LIVE Workshop With Terry Real

Over 3 hours, you’ll discover the questions and relational tools that pull you out of limbo and begin the process of determining whether your relationship can grow or if it’s time to let go.

When we find ourselves in this exhausting back and forth, we’re delaying the decision in the hopes we’ll eventually know for certain what’s right. But continuing to wait for certainty here will only bring you more of the same endless indecision. 

One thing that is certain is you need a new beginning…

You do not want more of the same as you have right now. And that could look like moving on or it could look like daring to rock the boat in your relationship and ask for something different.

Terry Real has spent more than 40 years working with couples facing this exact same state of limbo to find their path back to joy. And while Terry has a strong reputation for saving relationships, he does not have a vested interest in keeping people together in misery. This workshop is about supporting you in coming to the decision that’s best for you, your partner, and your relationship.

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If These Questions Sound Familiar…

Is there anything I can do to improve this relationship and get more of what I want?

How long should I wait to see if anything changes?

What if nothing changes… or it does but it’s still not enough?

What if my partner has an addiction and refuses help?

I want to work on things but my partner wants out. Is there hope?

I always run from my relationships. Can I ever stay?

Is it better for the children to stay together even if one or both of us is unhappy?

Nothing’s “wrong,” but I’m unbearably lonely – why?

How can I ask my partner to work on things without them getting defensive?

I feel so resentful I’m not sure I can ever come back – is that true?

Is it foolish to stay with my partner after they’ve cheated?

You’re not alone.

And this workshop will help you feel more supported and better equipped to make a call.

What You’ll Learn

You’ll explore the process of deciding whether to stay or go, including powerful relational skills and questions to ask, and when to see outside help.

Why You’re Stuck

What’s really behind the bitterness, weariness, and hopelessness you feel.

The Role of Attachment Styles

How our learned behaviors and coping mechanisms influence our relationship to relationships. 

How To Work On Things

The relational skills you need to see whether change is possible.

The Powerful Tool

The one question to decide once-and-for-all whether to stay or go.

Why You’re Stuck

There is pain to be felt whether you stay or go. Learn how to sit with it and move forward.

Who’s This Workshop For?

Whether you’ve been together for decades or a couple of months, if you find yourself teetering on the verge of staying or going, this 3-hour workshop will help you. 

Perhaps…

  • You’re exhausted from years of trying harder than your partner.
  • You’re fighting all the time and walking on eggshells, afraid to set them off.
  • You feel unbearably lonely – even when nothing is “wrong” on paper.
  • You’re staying for the kids but you’re wondering if that’s hurting them more.
  • Considering marriage or moving in and unsure why something feels “off.”
  • You’re a therapist or coach wanting to better support clients trapped in this same limbo.

Whatever your situation, you’re not a bad person for having doubts. Underneath all of it is often one truth: You’re not getting what you need in this relationship.

Terry will help you understand exactly what you’re longing for, how to ask for it, and what to do if –  despite your efforts – nothing changes.

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What You Get When You Join the LIVE Workshop

  • LIVE 3-hour workshop
  • Lifetime access to the recording 
  • 100% Money-Back Guarantee
  • The chance to ask Terry for advice
  • To learn from others facing the same struggles

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Workshop Today For Only $47

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Who Is Terry Real?

Terry Real, LCISM, is an internationally recognized family therapist and the New York Times bestselling author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy, the progressive approach to couples therapy that equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves and each other. His courses and workshops have helped thousands of couples and individuals dramatically improve their relationships. 

What Others Say About Terry’s Workshops & Courses

“ The dots’ are beginning to connect for me. Attending a workshop like this and listening closely to TR et al, made the connections between those dots stronger and clearer, and assisted me to validate my interpretation of all of my readings to date. My journey to understand my SELF and heal, to become a better person, husband, father etc has been a long road. I am cherishing every moment of this journey. ”

— Jim MacDougall (on Terry’s Unstuck workshop)

“ I was an old fashioned male skeptic from a non-communicative family, whose marriage is in serious crisis. The workshop demonstrated how deep our crisis is, but with a tiny pinprick of hope… The larger question from the workshop is how / if our marriage can or should be saved. This workshop was extraordinary and worth watching every minute of three hours. You will cry throughout. ”

— Douglas (on Terry’s Unstuck workshop)

“ The last class, about how to be softly with disappointment, lingers with me now. That was a very important piece, to be sure we understand every little incursion does not get solved, and that's okay. I also really was deeply moved by the participants who shared or asked questions.  It was a powerful part of the experience for me.

— Celia (on Terry’s Getting What You Want in Your
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You’re Protected by a 100% Money-Back Guarantee

We’re confident you’ll find this workshop helpful, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind.

If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the live workshop (on Wednesday, December 10 at 12 pm ET) and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

What You Get When You Join the LIVE Workshop

LIVE 3-hour workshop

Lifetime access to the recording

100% Money-Back Guarantee

The chance to ask Terry for advice

To learn from others facing the same struggles

Register for the LIVE Workshop Today For Only $47

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Frequently Asked Questions
When is the live workshop?

The live workshop takes place on Wednesday, December 10, from 12–3pm ET.

If you can’t join us live, we recommend still registering as you receive lifetime access to the recording. 

The workshop will take place over Zoom. As soon as you sign up, you’ll receive a confirmation email from us with your Zoom link to join on the day. We’ll also send you reminder emails in the days before, as well as one hour prior to the workshop. These will all contain your Zoom link. 

You can still sign up! You receive lifetime access to the recording. This will be stored in your private learning platform (if you’re new to our courses, you will receive login details via email as soon as you sign up). 

There are no guarantees. If you are committed to making your relationship work, this workshop will introduce you to relational skills that will help you change how you communicate with your partner to invite a better response from them. However, this workshop is not intended as a substitute for therapy and if you feel you need extra support, we recommend searching our website directory for an RLT-certified couples therapist in your area. 

No – you can join with your camera off and say nothing for the whole workshop. Terry will do most of the talking as he shares insights and skills designed to help you. He will open up space for Q&A, and only those who wish to share their experiences or ask a question will be called on. 

You can join alone or together. Terry will share from his four decades of experience working with couples and individuals grappling with the question of whether to stay or split. It is of course wonderful if you’re able to join together but you will be able to apply the skills Terry will share to change how you show up in the relationship, which will invite your partner to also change how they respond. 

Yes – this workshop will help you gain an understanding of some of the challenges couples face in determining whether or not to stay together. 

We’re confident you’ll find this workshop helpful, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the live workshop (on Wednesday, December 10 at 12 pm ET) and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked. 

Please contact us at support@terryreal.com. 

🗓️ Wednesday, December 10 12PM–3PM ET 

Ready to End the Exhausting Indecision & Move Toward Clarity?
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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

The RLT Level 1 Training Course

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT

Continuing Ed credits offered:  10 credit hours for 5 Classes

At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.

Content:

Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model. 

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy
  2. Describe the role and approach of the therapists in RLT
  3. List the seven lenses
  4. Explain the role of data gathering

  

Throughout the course, you’ll learn: 

    • True intimacy can only happen when partners are “same as”—neither one-up nor one-down
    • That RLT Therapists and Coaches will confront and teach their clients how to actually live relationally
    • How to use the RLT Lenses in Intervention & Finding Leverage
    • How RLT Therapists and Coaches use judicious self-disclosure, sharing stories of they use these same skills in their own relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each

Course Dates & Hours: 

January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025

Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class

Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.

Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.

FAQ’s

How do I receive the Zoom link?

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate?

Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com

Instructor’s Bios:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.

Anna Sterk, LMFT

Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022.  Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.

Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:

Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written

complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a

detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the

accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to

discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the

accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the

grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the

appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all

grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance

Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com