Tired of Feeling Like the One Person You Can’t Forgive Is Yourself?
Break free from shame, self-criticism, and judgment – and finally build a more loving and compassionate relationship with yourself & others in Real Self-Esteem.
Is it loving and compassionate… even when you screw up?
Or is it unrelentingly harsh? Critical? Unforgiving?
If it’s the latter, it’s completely understandable.
Most of us battle with a negative self-image but the truth is, we weren’t born with a negative inner voice..
Which means we also have the power to change it.
Truth is, you have worth simply because you are alive. Your worth cannot be added to or subtracted from. You are no worse than, no better than anyone else on this planet.
While it may feel impossible now, you can feel comfortable in your own skin.
And when you do, you’ll experience the positive ripple effect of that transformation in every aspect of your life – from your relationships with others to your performance at work.
That’s what you’ll learn inside Real Self-Esteem – the online course from Terry Real will equip you with the strategies and tools to handle your negative inner voice and finally love yourself in spite of your imperfections.
- 5 on-demand classes with Terry Real (watch anytime)
- 2 on-demand Q&As with Senior Faculty, Julie Rudiger
- 2 LIVE bonus classes with Terry (your chance to engage directly)
Through a blend of on-demand classes and two bonus LIVE
90-minute classes with Terry Real, you’ll move through 3 powerful stages to reconnect to your inherent sense of worth. By the end of this course, you will finally feel at peace in your skin. You’ll know how to:
- Move from harsh self-criticism or inflated defenses into a grounded, intrinsic sense of self-worth.
- Recognize the two halves of self-esteem disorder – shame and grandiosity – and how they show up in your life and relationships.
- Practice relational mindfulness to interrupt old automatic reactions and choose responses that build connection instead.
- Handle your inner critic – you’ll get to know them and treat them with loving firmness to stop them running the show.
- Understand how self-esteem impacts not only your inner world, but every relationship you have – from your partner, to your children, to your coworkers.
- Apply essential relational skills to experience healthier, more balanced relationships built on equality, respect, and love.
No longer feeling you have to go along with everyone else to be valued, and instead feeling comfortable voicing what you truly think, feel, and need with love and respect.
Finally feeling “enough” as you are, not having to prove or earn your worth through what you own or what you’ve achieved.
Not ripping yourself apart when you hurt someone, and instead feeling appropriately bad so you can express remorse and make amends.
5 On-Demand Classes with Terry Real
(watch anytime)
Get instant access to 5 transformational classes and learn how to give yourself unconditional love as a flawed human being – and extend that same compassion to others.
2 On-Demand Classes with
Julie Rudiger from the RLT Faculty
Deepen your understanding of your own inner critic and experience practical exercises to continue building healthy self-esteem. You’ll also see how Julie applies these tools directly to participant questions in our recorded
Q&A classes.
4 Practices & Meditations
to Cultivate Healthy Self-Esteem
As soon as you sign up, you’ll receive access to 4 practices and meditations you can use time and again to help you build real self-esteem. (These include 2 from Terry Real.)
Lifetime Access to The Class
Recordings and Course Material
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.
In Your On-Demand Classes With Terry Real
Explore the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence and understand how our sense of self is formed. Terry will also guide you through a powerful short exercise to support your inner child healing.
In this opening class, you’ll discover:
- What healthy self-esteem means.
- The 3 forms of unhealthy self-esteem common in Western culture:
- Other-based
- Performance-based
- Attribute-based
- Carried Shame (generational legacies)
- Loyalty issues: Leaving your parents behind
Uncover what’s holding you back from a healthy relationship with yourself. You’ll delve into the impact of your early childhood experiences and how they’re affecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in the present.
You’ll explore:
- The 3 things that get in the way of healthy self-esteem:
- Shame & Grandiosity: Can your self-esteem be too high? Why healthy self-esteem isn’t just pumping yourself up to be “better than” others.
- Trauma: Understanding the impact of childhood relational trauma on your self-esteem.
- Harshness: Explore the negative cumulative impact of harshness (to ourselves and others) on our self-esteem.
Get to know your stress adaptations: how you behave under stress. Uncover – and begin to heal – the unhealthy coping mechanisms you developed that once kept you protected, but now hinder connection in your adult life.
You’ll explore:
- The 5 things that get in the way of healthy self-esteem:
- How your Family of Origin affects your sense of self.
- The Relationship Grid: Understand your default response during stress.
- The Relational Context of Your Adaptation: Who/what were you adapting to?
- Description is Prescription: How naming your stress adaptation points to your path of healing.
- Relational Mindfulness: How to shift out of your default response into something calmer.
Once you’ve identified and understood your stress responses, it’s time to heal them. In this class, you’ll learn how to replace negative self-talk with compassion, warmth, and accountability.
You’ll explore:
- The 3 things that get in the way of healthy self-esteem:
- Handling your inner critic: How to change your negative internal tape.
- Inner child work: How and when to work with your inner child, including the importance of providing nurture, guidance, and limits.
- How to change your self-talk to support healthy self-esteem.
Our final class prepares you for lifelong healthy self-esteem. You’ll equip yourself with the tools to continue cultivating a better relationship with yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin.
You’ll explore:
- The difference between Shame and Remorse: How to “get over yourself” when you make a mistake.
- Negative thought spirals: How to catch yourself in a negative thought spiral, so you can halt harsh self-talk.
- How to be in your Wise Adult self so you can learn from your mistakes and turn them into opportunities
for growth.
Where does your inner critic come from? Take your understanding to a deeper level as you explore:
You’ll explore:
- The difference between Shame and Remorse: How to “get over yourself” when you make a mistake.
- Negative thought spirals: How to catch yourself in a negative thought spiral, so you can halt harsh self-talk.
- How to be in your Wise Adult self so you can learn from your mistakes and turn them into opportunities
for growth.
To support your ongoing practice of cultivating healthy self-esteem, Julie will introduce you to further practices. This class also includes a recorded Q&A about the course content.
Examples of the guided reflections and practical exercises covered in this session include:
- Naming and seeing your inner critic as separate from you.
- Mindfulness practices to disengage from your inner critic.
- Savoring your victories and positive experiences.
Choose the payment option that best suits you.
We’re confident you’ll love Real Self-Esteem, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 14 days of starting the course and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
What Others Say About Terry’s Classes
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He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections – to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole. The author of four books, Terry’s most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment.
Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
Julie has been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in 2008. She became certified in 2010, and since then, her practice and personal life has transformed.
Julie loves the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenet of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of her practice. She loves the role of “coach” in teaching the skills. She believes most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families.
Julie is also co-leader of the Relationship Boot Camp in Denver, which helps individuals and couples learn the skills in 2-day intensive workshops. A senior RLT therapist and a senior member of the RLT Faculty, Julie is part of the team responsible for training mental health practitioners in the Relational Life Therapy method.
Is this course live?
This is a self-paced course including five recorded classes with Terry Real and two recorded classes and Q&A with Julie Rudiger, LCSW, from the RLT faculty.
How long will I have access to the course material?
Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.
Will this course really transform my self-esteem?
If you commit to watching the course contents, doing the work, and practicing the skills Terry and his team will teach you, you can cultivate a more loving relationship with yourself. Your self-worth will not change overnight, but with dedicated practice, the insights and skills within this course can help you hold yourself in warm regard despite your imperfections and mistakes.
I still have questions. Who can I speak to?
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.
🗓️ October 14 & October 16
When you join, you get:
- Instant access to 7 on-demand classes and guided practices
- 2 LIVE classes with Terry this October (recorded if you can’t attend)
- Lifetime access to all course contents in your private learning hub
🔒Remember, you’re fully protected by our 14-day money-back guarantee – so there’s no risk in joining.
