Build Your Self- Esteem & Boundaries for Stronger,

Healthier Relationships

Get the Course Bundle

For Just $395

This exclusive course bundle is the perfect complement to the Unstuck workshop, equipping you with the self-esteem and boundary-building skills needed to end destructive behavior and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Terry Real, couples therapist, speaker & NY Times bestselling author

“The good news is that how we see ourselves and the world may change quickly, dramatically—and with support—permanently.”

Build Your Self-
Esteem & Boundaries
for Stronger,

Healthier

Relationships

Get the Course Bundle

For Just $395

This exclusive course bundle is the perfect complement to the Unstuck workshop, equipping you with the self-esteem and boundary-building skills needed to end destructive behavior and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Terry Real, couples therapist, speaker & NY Times bestselling author

“The good news is that how we see ourselves and the world may change quickly, dramatically—and with support—permanently.”

Build Your Self-
Esteem & Boundaries
for Stronger,

Healthier

Relationships

Get the Course Bundle

For Just $395

This exclusive course bundle is the perfect complement to the Unstuck workshop, equipping you with the self-esteem and boundary-building skills needed to end destructive behavior and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Terry Real, couples therapist, speaker & NY Times bestselling author

“The good news is that how we see ourselves and the world may change quickly, dramatically—and with support—permanently.”

Lasting Relationship Change Starts With You…

The way you see and treat yourself sets the standard for every relationship you have.
If you struggle to build healthy boundaries, if your inner voice is harsh rather than compassionate, if you carry deep shame — these struggles don’t stay contained within you. They spill out into your relationships.

You can’t build healthy relationships without a healthy relationship with yourself.

Most of us were never taught to develop real self-worth or create good boundaries in our relationships. Instead, we adapted.
We learned from our early childhood experiences to seek approval, to over-function, to silence ourselves to avoid conflict, or to wall off and withdraw when things got too close.
The result? The same painful dynamics playing out again and again. Feeling unseen, unheard, or unappreciated. Partners who feel too distant or too demanding. Conflict that never truly resolves.

Healing these struggles requires you to finally give yourself what you needed all along.

These two courses, Real Self-Esteem and Building Better Boundaries, are designed to help you reclaim what was always yours: a sense of worth that is your birthright and the ability to stay protected and connected.
When you do this work, it changes everything — how you show up in love, how you handle conflict, how you move through the world.

Take the First Step

Reclaim Your Self-Worth, Rebuild Your Relationships

Most of us were never taught how to hold ourselves with both love and strength. Instead, we’re conditioned to believe that our value hinges on performance, attributes, and others’ opinions.

But your relationships don’t have to suffer because of it.

This course bundle helps you break free from destructive patterns by building real self-esteem and healthy boundaries — so you can show up as your best self in every relationship.

Is This Bundle for You?

This course bundle is designed for:

Couples: If you struggle with boundaries or power dynamics and want a more balanced, intimate, and fulfilling relationship.

Individuals: If you battle with self-worth and want to create healthier boundaries and self-esteem for future relationships.

Past Relationships: If you’re tired of repeating the same painful cycles or feeling stuck in shame and want to heal past wounds.

Therapists: If you’re a mental health professional wanting to help clients create healthy self-esteem and boundaries for lasting relational change.

“The wounds of our past can be healed in our relationships, just as we dreamed they might be. Only, not in the way we imagined they would be.”

— Terry Real

Every Relationship Starts With Your Relationship With Yourself

Your self-esteem and boundaries shape every interaction you have — how you communicate, how you handle conflict, and your ability to feel understood, valued, and heard.

With this bundle, you’ll learn how to:

1

Develop healthy boundaries that protect and connect, allowing you to be open in love without losing yourself.

2

Shift from self-criticism into self-compassion and show up in your relationships with self-worth that is your birthright.

3

Stop feeling like you have to fix, chase, or shrink yourself to be loved.

4

Heal from past wounds that keep you stuck in cycles of conflict, avoidance, or self-sabotage.

5

Assert your needs clearly and lovingly while building deeper trust and connection.

6

End harmful relational patterns shaped by early experiences, and develop the skills for lifelong intimacy.

Discover the 3 Steps to Healthier Self-Worth and Stronger Relationships

With this course bundle, you’ll move through 3 empowering stages to help you end destructive behavior and build a more loving relationship with yourself and others.

Step 1

Understand…

How your early experiences influence your sense of worth and boundaries — and how these shape the way you show up in your relationships today.

Recognize what keeps you feeling unseen, unheard, or emotionally drained.

Step 2

Heal…

Your relationship with your inner critic and learn to handle it with loving firmness.

Create boundaries that allow you to be both protected and connected so you no longer lose yourself in relationships or push others away.

Step 3

Transform…

The relational skills to hold yourself in warm regard, even in moments of imperfection.

Step into your Loving Power and finally build the healthy, fulfilling relationships with yourself and others you’ve always wished for.

Terry Real’s progressive approach to couples therapy has helped thousands create relationships grounded in love, respect, and true connection.

“Relational Life Therapy teaches people how to live skilled relational lives—lives of radically honest, fearlessly assertive, passionate connection to themselves and those they love.”

What Others Say About Terry’s Courses

“It felt very profound and healing for me.

I loved Terry’s energy and how tenderly he spoke to the students when they came on to share. He made the concepts so clear and easy to understand and they really resonated with me. I appreciated his competence and his warmth. I really enjoyed witnessing him working with someone (and not just answering questions) – it felt very profound and healing for me. The five classes with him were life changing for me. I have much gratitude for him, for his team, and this work.”

— Michelle

“LOVED it all!

Loved Terry’s interactions with students. His focus, presence, and compassion. His beautifully worded questions and gentle prodding. His eye contact. His expressions. The way he asked about tears. LOVED it all! His presence there will stay with me.”

— Gina Clowes

“Life-changing for me and my husband

Terry Real’s Boot Camp was life-changing for me and my husband. We’ve been together 30+ years so it’d be fair to wonder what would we possibly have to work on. My love-avoidant, grandiose man said this shifted our relationship to a deeper, more loving level; his love-dependent, grandiose wife agrees. The Boot Camp weekend opened up new ways to talk, to see ourselves and to love each other.”

— Sarah P, Portland, OR

Here’s Everything You’ll
Receive

Real Self-Esteem and Building Better Boundaries Course Bundle

Discover the tools to develop healthy self-esteem and boundaries to end destructive behaviors and transform how you show up in relationships.

Through Real Self-Esteem, you’ll learn how to handle your negative inner voice, reconnect to your inherent self-worth, and hold yourself with love and strength.

With Building Better Boundaries, you’ll discover how to stay both connected and protected in your relationships, shifting out of people-pleasing, resentment, or emotional walls into a healthier, more balanced way of loving.

You’ll also get lifetime access to the course recordings and materials.

The course recordings are yours to keep forever and will be stored in your private learning platform (we’ll send you logins when you register). Revisit the material anytime to reinforce your self-esteem, improve your boundaries, and continue growing in your relationships.

Whether you’re looking to heal past wounds, create new relationship patterns, or finally show up as your best self in love, this bundle gives you the tools to make real, lasting change.

Total Value: $794

Get the Course Bundle For Only $395

“Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”

Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop

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What You Get When You Join Today

  • Real Self-Esteem (Worth $397)
  • Building Better Boundaries (Worth $397)
  • Lifetime access via the online learning platform
  • 14-Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee

Total Value: $794

Get the Course Bundle For Only $395

What People Say About Terry’s Method

“I have seen clients that have been stuck for years/decades begin to show growth and move towards their authentic self with pride, dignity and confidence that they’ve never experienced before. Life Changing….”
— Stephanie Lott

Frequently Asked Questions

How long will I have access to the course material?

Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.

If you commit to showing up, doing the work, and practicing the skills Terry and his team will teach you, you can cultivate a more loving relationship with yourself. Your self-worth will not change overnight, but with dedicated practice, the insights and skills within this course can help you hold yourself in warm regard despite your imperfections and mistakes.

Lasting relationship change starts from within. By doing the work to develop healthier boundaries and self-esteem, you create the foundation for deeper intimacy, trust, and connection. The tools you’ll learn in this course can help you stop old patterns of self-sabotage, break free from destructive dynamics, and find the balance between closeness and separateness that’s essential for an extraordinary relationship.

Terry Real, LICSW, is a globally renowned family therapist, bestselling author, and the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). He has helped thousands of couples turn their relationships around and trained mental health professionals worldwide in his transformative methods.

We’re confident this course bundle will make a difference. If you’re not completely satisfied, simply email us within 14 days of purchase, and we’ll issue a full refund—no questions asked.

Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.

What You Get When You Join Today

  • Real Self-Esteem (Worth $397)
  • Building Better Boundaries (Worth $397)
  • Lifetime access via the online learning platform
  • 14-Day Unconditional Money Back Guarantee

Total Value: $794

Get the Course Bundle For Only $395

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

The RLT Level 1 Training Course

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT

Continuing Ed credits offered:  10 credit hours for 5 Classes

At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.

Content:

Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model. 

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy
  2. Describe the role and approach of the therapists in RLT
  3. List the seven lenses
  4. Explain the role of data gathering

  

Throughout the course, you’ll learn: 

    • True intimacy can only happen when partners are “same as”—neither one-up nor one-down
    • That RLT Therapists and Coaches will confront and teach their clients how to actually live relationally
    • How to use the RLT Lenses in Intervention & Finding Leverage
    • How RLT Therapists and Coaches use judicious self-disclosure, sharing stories of they use these same skills in their own relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each

Course Dates & Hours: 

January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025

Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class

Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.

Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.

FAQ’s

How do I receive the Zoom link?

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate?

Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com

Instructor’s Bios:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.

Anna Sterk, LMFT

Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022.  Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.

Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:

Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written

complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a

detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the

accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to

discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the

accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the

grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the

appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all

grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance

Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com